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How to reinvent yourself is easy.
All you have to do is decide what you want,
and discover what is keeping you from having it. Then rise above the effects of the traps that are blocking you, and approach your goals in a realistic way. Easier said
than done? Of course, but you can reinvent yourself if you are sincere in your quest and willing to proceed one step at a time.
To begin, if your life is not working the
way you want it to work, you need to examine the nature of your traps. More often than not, there is no difference between yourself and the trap. This being the case, you
are not trapped. Reinventing Yourself
begins by addressing the Critical 15 traps from a metaphysical/human-potential perspective.
Having already written several books on the
subject of reincarnation and karma, I will not attempt to substantiate their validity in this volume. Chapter seventeen, however, offers a brief explanation, and if you
don't have an understanding of the subject, you may want to read this chapter first. Many of your problems are caused by beliefs stemming from past lives as well as
present-life experiences.
Critical to reinventing yourself is the
ability to choose wisely between realistic and unrealistic behavior -- what we call reason. This relates to most of the Critical 15 traps. If you were to go into
psychotherapy, the doctor would work to get you to be more responsible and realistic about your decisions, and to show you the value in making immediate sacrifices for the
sake of long-term satisfaction.
Therapists usually work from the premise
that you have problems because you are unable to fulfill your essential needs. We all have the same needs but we differ in our ability to fulfill them. The severity of
your symptoms is a direct reflection of your inability to fulfill those needs. But whatever your symptoms, they will disappear when your needs are aligned with reality and
successfully fulfilled.
The practice of psychiatry is concerned with
two basic psychological needs: 1. The need to love and be loved.
You need at least one person in your life to love and who loves you in return. Without this essential person, you will be unable to fulfill your basic needs.
2. The need to feel worthwhile to yourself and others.
To maintain high self-esteem you must maintain a satisfactory standard
of behavior and correct yourself when you are wrong. If your behavior is below your standard and you don't correct it, you will suffer as a result. You must fulfill your
needs in a way that does not deprive others of the ability to fulfill their needs.
When you decide what behaviors are not
serving you, be aware that an immediate change in behavior will lead to a change in attitude. You don't have to change how you feel about something to affect it, if you
are willing to change what you are doing. Exerting the self-discipline to make immediate changes in your behavior will lead to a change in attitude. Actions influence attitude. An improved attitude will lead to fulfilling your needs and further improved behavior, which will increase your self-esteem.
The Critical 15
For 15 years I've taught a five-day seminar called the
Professional Past-Life Therapy Training.
The participants come from all over the world to learn hypnosis, regression and counseling techniques. Some incorporate the awareness into their existing careers, while others use it to establish a hypnosis/counseling practice. A few of those in attendance are practicing psychologists and psychiatrists. Many are wholistic practitioners, Reiki, Shiatsu or Reflexology therapists who want to expand their practices to be of further service to their clients. Others plan to incorporate the seminar awareness into careers as human-potential trainers.
This professional training covers many areas
of expertise, yet basic to all the awareness is what I call the Critical 15 -- the foundation of Reinventing Yourself. When someone explains his problem to a counselor or stands up in a seminar room to share his pain, the cause of his turmoil will always be one or more of these 15 traps. So, the counselor/therapist/trainer must learn to listen for these
factors in the verbal exchange with his subject. Usually one or more of the 15 factors will quickly become obvious. The therapist then begins verbal “processing” by asking
the right questions; the subject's answers indicate the next step in the processing. Once the therapist understands the problem, he may use “Back To The Cause” hypnotic
regression techniques where there appears to be no known cause.
No counselor, therapist, minister or friend
playing the part of a counselor, should ever advise another person what to do. Instead, verbally guide the individual through his conflict and into the light of awareness.
Let a troubled person discover his own answers.
Whatever a therapist can do, you can do for
yourself, if you're willing to ask the right questions and explore your own past. The explanations and case histories offered in this book are to use as a basis for
self-processing. If your problem relates to a past life, you can choose to work with a professional hypnotist, regress yourself, or use prerecorded hypnotic regression
tapes to find the cause of your present effects.
After explaining each of the Critical 15
traps, I will provide the general action required to rise above the negativity, and then I'll demonstrate the factor in action, using seminar dialogues tape recorded in my Bushido, Master of Life and Satori seminars. The seminars are conducted in hotel ballrooms, with 100 to 300 people in attendance. Seminar participants may ask for the microphone and interact with me if they desire, but they are never forced or asked individually to share.
Out of the context of a seminar or
counseling session, the encounters often appear cold and unfeeling to a reader. In reality, they are a form of “hard love,” for the therapist/ trainer has one goal in mind
-- to create the space for the individual to help himself, by finding his own truths. The trainer/participant association is a modern-day version of the Zen Master/student
association. The seminar training (as in Zen) is a process of seeking to find in self, the path to liberation.
Zen is neither a religion nor a philosophy,
but a way of liberation. It is a game of discovering who you are beneath your programming. The Zen Master often used a stick to hit a student who wasn't “getting it.” In
the seminars, I purposely use attitudes and words as my stick. One participant might react best to shock, another to gentle support, another to teasing, et cetera. My goal
is to guide the participant to become aware of his own self-defeating attitudes and behavior, and to jolt him out of his intellectual ruts, passé notions, and convictions
that are restricting his life. To be effective, I must be willing to incur his dislike. As in Zen, the participant is encouraged to leap into the unknown and find his
truth within. His inner, True Self is found when the false, fearful self is renounced.
(NOTE: Many of the
dialogues in this book have been condensed to more quickly make the point.)
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