The Problem
Not Living Well
Our Poor Quality of Life
In
his book, Real Boys, (1998) William Pollack challenged conventional expectation about manhood and masculinity that created
a toughening process that drives the hardwired and real emotions of boys underground, (outside of their awareness). The end result according to Pollack is this generation’s silent crisis and why so many boys are sad,
lonely and confused although they may appear tough, cheerful, and confident.
In
her book, Reviving Ophelia, Mary Pipher, had previously undertaken a similar effort in analyzing conventional cultural expectations
that drove girls away from their true inner worth. It too thwarted them from
understanding their own emotions and their right to live them without shame.
Not Learning Well
Our Poor Quality of Education
Recent
neurobiological research has proven that you cannot learn or teach (communicate) well when the emotional processes are misunderstood
and mismanaged. For example, the misunderstanding and mismanagement of anger,
anxiety, fear, despair, and being shamed by another, etc. creates the equivalent of a firestorm in the brain. The firestorm renders higher levels of human communication, such as learning and teaching, impossible.
Unregulated Anger, Anxiety, Fear, Despair, Being Shamed …:
- impair encoding of information, (You cannot learn what is being
requested/taught/shared and may not even be aware that anything is being said. Classical
example is when an important friend turns on you, the stock market just crashed
15%, your boss/teacher/parent is out of control. That is a “0” learning/sharing moment at work/school/home
and lasts until recovery takes place.
Basic Program
- impair recall, (Even if you encoded the information [learned it]
well, you cannot recall the information. Classical example is when taking exams,
negotiating with an important client or a family member when particularly anxious. When undeer the influence of anger,
one can have a high level of focused recall on the subject at hand, but cannot take in information from the other, nor have
even awareness of other alternatives.)
Why it works
- impair performance-competence, (A classical example is in public
speaking. Likewise, when under the influence of unregulated anger, anxiety or fear, you cannot teach or manage
well nor advance the family's interests.)
Medical Professionals
- channel the range of thoughts into a rigid and narrow band, (Cannot see options or other’s opinion.
This is classical in unregualted anger driven discussions and unregulated anxiety driven problem solving efforts.)
Immediate Benefits
- lessen appropriate responses to social cues, (Sometimes it can cause one to
misread all social cues.)
Health Benefits
- stop or block any effort to learn. (This
is classical of hopeless, give up thinking, which tends to depress the necessaary energy to learn attentively. It is also
classical of both appropriate anger and reactive anger. While the later focuses energy to hurt back and hence cannot learn
anything, the peerson who is approprately anger will be seeking justice, and, even if they do call a time out, it takes massive
emotional maturity (that few adults can even achieve) to enter into a state of learning.
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prevalent and sad cause of all three is when a frustrated teacher, (manager, parent) employs demeaning, shaming, cynical remarks,
etc. as a compliance technique. If the student belives the remarks to be true, they become depressed; if a student rejects
the demeaning comment, they will become angry (which they should) but they genrally also lose control and become reactively
anger. However, either in a state of rightfdul anger on in a state of reactive anger, a student cannot learn anything.)
Basic Program
Girls & Women: Conventional cultural
expectations drive girls away from their true inner worth.
The Solution
Is T-LPT!
The Santana-Grace Teen Leadership/Partnership Training
(T-LPT) Program creates experiential awareness and understanding of the emotional processes and provides practical skill sets
that enable both boys and girls (men and women) to connect or reconnect to their emotional processes and to begin to utilize
them to live full and productive lives. Girls and boys (woman and men) learn
how to create an emotional climate within themselves that enables them to live, learn and work well.
T-LPT reconnects boys and men (and women and girls)
with their real emotional processes and gives them experienced based words to help them navigate a whole range of their real
world of emotions (inner energy). T-LPT is experientially and kinetically learned
and thus offers abundant avenues for everyone to interact in the learning process.
T-LPT connects girls and women (men and boys) with
their right, for example, to anger. T-LPT teaches how the first phase of anger
is a healthy, hardwired response. T-LPT shows how anger is wired directly into
their inner beauty, absolute worth, and undeniable dignity, which no one may degrade in any way.
T-LPT also teaches girls and women and boys and
men how to master the force of the second phase of anger, which can overwhelm a person and cause them to demean the dignity,
worth and inner beauty of another person. T-LPT empowers them to transform anger
into non-judgmental gentleness toward the offender.
Teams
As
people begin to practice healthy relationships skills and self-regulate their emotions, teams form and team work becomes a
hallmark of a T-LPT trained teen.
Your Teen’s Future:
T-LPT trained
people have healthier, more stable families and more satisfying relationships. This
is also true of all people who –aware or unaware- have a high level of emotional self-regulation and utilize healthy
communication skills as a matter of habit.
Boys & Men: Conventional expectation
about manhood and masculinity create a toughening process that drives the hardwired and real emotions (real inner energy)
of boys underground, outside of their awareness.
T-LPT also
lays a solid basis for your teen to become a future business, educational, political, or social leader who will be emotionally
wiser and thus able to make calmer, more thoughtful decisions in the interest of all.
Each day your teen will make better school, family, workplace and life decisions for themselves
and others. It is not surprising that T-LPT trained people are those who are
most often promoted.
These
results enhance T-LPT’s long-term vision of creating an emotionally wiser citizenry and an ever-healthier relationship
culture in our nation.
A Future Also For Those Sailing Into Their Mid Seventies
Therefore, as not to limit our dreaming to our
youth, the following is a quote from a 75 year old:
Your two-day program brought new understanding of how we became
who we are. In the process, I became very conscious that we need to move beyond
that to recognize we are persons with worth, value and dignity and that what we were cannot determine who we need to become.
(Paul Sandin, Retired.)
How do we know that
T-LPT really is
part of
the solution?
By listening
to what
pupils & parents,
teachers & administrators
say about T-LPT!
Teens; Parents; Kids/Children; Teachers; School Administrators; Medical Professionals; University Life; Business, Financial & Institutional
Leaders
