Some words to remember

I am a good person

I realize that the rape and or sexual abuse were not my fault

I was a victim of a crime. IT WAS NOT MY CRIME IT WAS THE ABUSERS!!! 

I realize this is not my dirty little secret, I did nothing wrong!!!!! 

I realize that in order to heal,  I must take the power back from my abusers 

          I realize I have Nothing to be ashamed of 

          I realize that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others, Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself 

          I realize that when I was abused as a child, I did not tell because my abuser told me not to, and since he was an adult I listened

          I realize that going thru the process of therapy is not an easy process but one that is crucial,  to be able to move ahead 

          I realize that this is the worse thing that has ever happened to me, I must accept that, own it and heal from it 

          I realize that the therapist can tell you certain things and you should listen, because they have dealt with people's reactions before and we are all similar in certain aspects 

          I realize that what I went through was horrible,  but  IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE,  it could always be worse 

          I realize it’s not what things I have in my life, but who I have in my life 

          I realize my body reacts to all bodily functions,  which is normal 

          I realize I did not face this then, so I must face this now 

          I realize I will survive this,  I have already survived the hardest part 

          I realize it's time to stop shutting everyone out 

          I realize I had NO control over what happened to me 

          I realize that I will always have bad days,  but I will have less and less of them as I heal 

          I realize that sometimes I can only take it five minutes at a time, that's ok, there is no rush, no timetables, and no have to’s 

          I realize my expectations for dealing with things in my life are much too harsh, since nobody could live up to those high expectations I should not expect myself to either 

          I realize that even though what I went through was horrible, it is still all I have known for most of my life, so I am a bit afraid to heal and not have it in my life 

          I realize I have a right to be able to look good if I’d like to, that does not make me more prone to another rape, and there was nothing I could have done to stop the rape from happening, nothing at all 

          I realize that I am not going crazy, my reactions to things are normal 

          I realize that beating myself up all the time, about things I had NO control over is just a waste of my time 

          I realize I have the right to try and find happiness 

          I realize I am a good person, not bad like my abuser said I was 

          I realize that it is very important to find the right therapist to help you in your journey. The wrong therapist can be worse than not having one at all. It’s your life,  if the therapist does not help you,  the way you feel you need help , get another therapist 

          I realize I have the right to be angry, but I don't have a right to be cruel to those I love 

          I realize that if you say no it should mean no,  but sometimes your no goes unheard,  That's because they have chosen not to hear you,  not because you did not say it loud enough 

          I realize you can keep on going long after you think you can’t 

          I realize it takes years to build up trust and seconds to destroy trust 

          I realize I need to like myself, and not to think negative thoughts about myself 

          I realize I am who I am because of what I’ve been through, and that’s a good thing 

          I realize only I can help myself, but it’s ok to reach out for help,  I should not cut  myself off from people 

          I realize I am not dirty because of things that were done to me,  that my body reacted to 

          I realize I cannot control when I get my memories, they will come when I’m ready 

          I realize the harder I try to keep the lid on the bigger the pop when the lid pops of 

          I realize that I can’t blame myself for the way my body reacted, when sexual things were done to
          me that I did not ask for
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Affirmations
 

"I speak up for myself with ease,as I claim my own power today."

"Commitment to myself helps me maintain balance."

"I can choose to free myself of any tensions."

"Today I image health and well being."

"I face my goals with persistence and determination."

"I approach today ready for the opportunity to learn."

"I review my goals and accept inspiration,wisdom and energy."

"I establish relationships which are fun and nurturing."

"I take responsibility for all my actions."

"I follow through on my plans today."

"I look at barriers as merely doors that can be opened."

"Exploration, growth, and acceptance are important elements of my life."

"Today I have a future to create,for my past has happened and cannot be changed."

"I know it is a sign of strength to seek guidance."

"I am a creative and positive force in my world."

"Today's experiences I meet with self-confidence and trust."