Early baby boom Catholic moral guidance Back when it was the norm to see Catholic families of half a dozen or more children,
marriage problems were not exactly unheard of. Nor were guidebooks. And John L. Thomas, S.J., wrote 7 all by himself. The
most practical was this volume, which was derived from his extraordinarily popular Catholic newspaper column which appeared
in 40 city and diocesan newspapers across America. Father Thomas provided detailed answers to the 83 most frequently asked
questions he received. Questions like:
* Should we move for a better job in another city?
* Do you think in-laws are trying to control your marriage?
* How can you tell if a young man will be a good marriage partner?
* "My wife wears herself out in dozens of Catholic causes."
* How can parents best give their children sex instruction?
* How can husbands and wives work for each other's sanctification?
* How to deal with a husband who never takes his wife out?
* "We are expecting another baby, and my wife is unhappy."
* What's the best way to promote vocations for children?
* "I'm getting tired of trying to please my over-critical husband."
* Are too many activities taking parents away from home too often?
* Is it important for marriage partners to be the same age?
* "My husband's work requires travel - we lack a normal family life."
* "We have difficulty finding suitable friends in our neighborhood."
* How long should a girl wait for a marriage proposal?
* Vocation of the single life too often disregarded.
* Parents in-law are trying to run our lives.
* How can you tell when you are really in love?
* When to spank or not to spank.
* "I am in trouble and don't know where to turn."
* Budget battle distresses father of large family.
* What are the right answers about necking?
* Dominating mothers are a type, but not all alike.
* Failure to accept reality blamed for marital problems.
* "My wife thinks I don't pay enough attention to her."
* It pays to know what really lies behind lovers' quarrels.
* The decision to use birth control should not be made lightly.
* Husband's reading habits encompass only sports and westerns.
* "One day, my wife won't stop talking; the next, she won't talk."
* How should husbands and wives divide authority in the home? "Down to earth.... The conscientious Catholic couple...when
it comes to applying their Catholic principles to specific situations are understandably bewildered by the complexities in
shifting values that prevail.... Father Thomas has gathered the most frequently encountered problems and questions concerning
the home, and answered them with practical and theological insight.... A valuable reference book of husband-wife relationships,
parent-child relationships, the family, and society." -The Catholic World "As an authority on the family and its problems,
the author of this book has a reputation as wide as the United States, and it is certainly deserved. Father Thomas is not
the ivory tower type. His knowledge is profound, but it is sharpened and kept practical by contact with people."
The Bible says, "male and female he created them." (Gen. 1:28). Expounding on the theme that marriage is an institution and
a Sacrament created by God, Fr. Wickens outlines the principles of Catholic marriage in a succinct yet dignified and insightful
manner that will both tickle the reader's funny bone and soberly enlighten and inspire him with the reasonableness, practicality
and holy purpose of the institution of marriage as it was created by God. Written completely from the traditional Catholic
perspective - that recognizes the primary purpose of marriage as the procreating and raising of children - Husband and Wife
never drags, never gets preachy, and always stays interesting. Covered here are the psychological differences in men and women,
how they approach problems in a different manner, the importance of the physical and psychological and spiritual union of
the two partners, the problems facing married people today, separate interests, sympathy and understanding, weakening of home
life, prevalence of adultery, how to offset materialism, how marriage belongs to God, that God has made the rules, that marriage
is a vocation and a Sacrament, mutual love and help, educating the children, common complaints, lack of confidence, communication,
economic worries, in-laws, birth control, the morality of spacing children, etc., etc. Here is a book that every Catholic
should read and definitely one that every engaged or married Catholic should read . . . or anyone considering marriage - not
that Fr. Wickens has said everything about marriage that can be said, but he has surely established the ground rules for this
God-given institution in a no-nonsense manner that will stick with the reader always.