The very best way to know whether or not you can benefit from counseling or therapy is to talk with a therapist. Ask questions and don't stop until you're satisfied with the answers.

Before selecting a therapist, you may need to interview several, looking for one whose orientation, training and clinical experience best suit your needs. It is essential that you feel comfortable with the therapist you choose, that you respect his professionalism, but don't underestimate the importance of his common sense and down-to-earthness.

Avoid therapists who use jargon and complex theorizing; find one who reduces complicated ideas into everyday language without being condescending. Avoid therapists who are so dedicated to a particular system of treatment that they forget YOU and focus on their methods instead. Look for flexibility, warmth, open-mindedness, involvement, listening ability and responsiveness.