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I will be posting articles and quotes from various books, newsletters and other print media on this page. They will be related
to various aspects of couples therapy that I think you might be interested in.
I will credit the source, and add a web link so that you can find out more by following the link.
Click on the link below to read the article:
"26 Reasons Why Relationships Fail
and How to Know if You are Having Sad,
Unhealthy Relationships"
by Cucan Pemo
article by Cucan Pemo
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Four Characteristics of a Good Partner:
1. Someone who gives even when it isn't convenient;
2. Someone who admits when they are wrong;
3. Someone who does not make demands or attack;
4. Someone who makes a sustained effort to give and respond in an empathic way.
(empathy = accepting someone's feelings while having their own feelings.)
This information is from:
Ellyn Bader, PhD and Peter Pearson, PhD
The Couples Institute,
Menlo Park, CA.
The following information is from the book
"Inhibited Sexual Desire" by
Dr. Jennifer Knopf and Dr. Michael Seiler,
Warner Books, New York, 1990
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GOALS OF COUPLES THERAPY
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ONE:
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the ability to express your needs, thoughts, and feelings
without blaming or attacking;
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TWO:
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the ability to listen attentively and
confirm that you understand what your partner is saying;
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THREE:
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the ability to respond without becoming defensive;
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and
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FOUR:
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the ability to negotiate differences of opinion effectively.
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