The Christians and the Pagans






"Will this ever work?" is a question that weighs heavy on a lot of minds, mine included. Is it possible to build a love between a Wiccan and a Christian? The short answer, and there are probably scores who will disagree on this, is yes. I believe it can be done. Perhaps the question then becomes, "Will that love be enough to sustain a relationship?" This is where things truly get bleak.

The trouble is not so much the fact that you believe different things. After all, a Pagan of any sort, in claiming respect for their faith (I know, by the way, that I've made a grammatical error with that plural, but it's shorter, and saves pronouns. Besides, in the not-so-distant past, this was considered correct. I'm still hoping it will make a comeback.), must allow for the validity of other belief systems, at least to the sincere practitioners of those systems. Even a Christian (though not all) may be willing to trust the Pagan's soul to the kindness and benevolence of their God, thus allowing in their hearts for the Pagan's eventual salvation.

The problem is one of sharing. Obviously your spirituality is an important part of your life, or one of you would just convert and avoid this whole mess. How will you feel, next week or a year from now, when you cannot share something you hold so dear with your beloved? See what I mean? How do you handle the frustration and emptiness, and on what other terms can you establish the intimacy necessary to build a life together?

Of course, I am an optimist, and I do believe in the power of love to conquer just about anything. But in the world of human relationships, it seems to me that this is as hard as it gets. If you wish to pursue it, both of you had better be ready for a world of hard work, and growing pains like you've never imagined.

I suppose the secret, if there is one, is the discovery of common ground. Morally, and ethically, the Christian and Pagan have more in common than might at first be supposed. Were we not so quick to disagree, we might see that there are many things we hold in common. One principal function of any faith is education. Through the study of religious tenets, we are taught how to live in the world, and with each other. We learn what sort of behavior is acceptable, and what is not. We strive to be, and to do, good. This notion of a "good" person changes very little from faith to faith, no matter how differently we may describe the particulars. The language barrier is huge, no doubt, and of course there are differences, even significant ones. But there are similarities as well. These must be clung to, and built upon, if there is to be any chance of a successful relationship.

On the bright side, it also seems to me that this way lies the salvation of the world. Let's face it: ours will never be a planet of one faith (If anyone out there feels like arguing this one, I'd love to hear what you have to say.). It's all well and good for Wiccans, or Christians, or Jews to fall in love with one another, but how much more powerful might it be if the Wiccan and the Jew, or the Jew and the Christian, can find a way to love and live with each other? This is the kind of effort that can and will change the world. If your hearts are in it for the long haul, I wish you luck.


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