female types
This list is not meant to be exhaustive and/or inclusive. It's just some general observations. But you will see them every day.
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bad girls
She's looking for Mr Rite .
She's looking for Mr Rite and over 30.
The tease.
The gold digger.
The professional virgin.
The man-hater.
The princess.
The goddess.
in between girls
Single woman with children.
Recent divorcess.
She's out to have a good time.
The straying lamb.
It's her duty.
good girls
The functional female.
The rebel girl.
Quietly likes sex.
The groupie.
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The thing is this, if you are doing everything right then women will seek out your company. They will take the initiative. It's true! Or at least they will keep their dates. But it is not easy. You have to prepare yourself, so I recommend you reread this.
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"Liberation grows out of the realization that the most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed"-- Stephen Biko
She's looking for some guy so special that you will never live up to her delusion. So she will shoot you down. Indeed, she might even be insulted that you dared to ask her out...I mean, she is looking for Mr Rite, right, and how dare you try to destroy her delusion, uh, reputation!? Even worse, you may live up to her delusion. Then she will never leave you alone. Prepare to be stalked! The point is, she is not ready to relate to a man as a human being, but rather an an object to satisfy her fantasies. Often, she will latch on to the biggest loser she can find and attempt to "change" him. We all know how this ends up--disastersville! Stay out of blast radius.
Now she is over the hill, unmarried, and guess what she will tell you, my man? It's all your fault!.
She's the one who will wear a lowcut dress, who will rub herself up against you when you are dancing, who will talk dirty about sex, who screaches Woo Hoo! in bars and clubs on Satureday nights (you've heard that shriek, haven't you?). Of course, if you are stupid enough to respond to her sexually, she will indignantly inform you that she is "...not that sort of a girl! Humph!!" How to deal with her?: no strike and she is out.
She'll tell you up front that she wants to marry a millionaire, or to be supported in the manner to which she is accustomed, or some such variation on these themes. Well, I suppose if you are making that 6 or 7 figure salary, she may be the girl for you. Until another guy comes along who makes 8 figures.
By this I mean she makes a production out of the fact that she is "saving" herself until she is married, i.e., she is using sex as a means to cash in her chips, so to speak. Now, as I have stated elsewhere, there is nothing wrong with not having had sex, but it is another matter entirely to deal with someone who sees sex as a commodity to be traded in for a wedding ring. Drop her.
She tells you that "all heterosexual sex is rape." Or that she loves to see movies where men are killed. Or she announces she is "oppressed" by patriarchy because she is a university professor of womyn's studies. Don't even bother with her.
She combines any and all of the above. 'Nuff said.
Like the princess, but even more delusional. Don't even bother.
OK, this one may not be so bad. She may want to get it on with you no strings attached. Or she even may be up front about what it is she wants from you, i.e., an exchange of her body for you taking care of some other guy's kids. So be wary.
Often after breaking up with hubby, these women want freedom, to do all those things they've read about in Cosmo or seen on Sex in the City. Recent divorcees can be a lot of fun for a few months following their breakup with their ex-. But...but...within a year they may start thinking (or feeling), "Gee, I'm over-30, single, and carrying on with no shame while all my friends are married with kids and happily paying a mortgage in suburbia." So they may start acting like the Bad Girls, above. Or maybe not.
She's the one in the yuppie bar on Saturday night who will dance with you, and hang out with you for an hour, and even give you her phone number. But when you call her up the next day (as women say they want you to do), she suddenly remembers she has a "boyfriend." You see, her agenda is different from yours. You, my man, want to go out to meet a woman as a potential girlfriend/sex partner. But she can not allow herself to be "picked up" in a bar. Why, that would mean Mr Rite would think she is a whore and a tramp and a slut! Can't have that. OK, so why then don't I categorize her as a Bad Girl? Because the real problem is not her. It's you. Trying to pick up girls just will not work for 90% of men (if you are one of the 10% who can pick up girls in clubs, good for you! what are you doing reading this site? why aren't you out there doing it?). So this kind of gal is a dead end from the get-go. My recommendation? Do not try to pick up girls!
Sometimes women who come from a puritanical background will want to check out what those "sinners" do. You can identify them because they come on strong sexually, but the next day check into an alternative reality where they deny having been responsible for their actions the night before. Now, a little finesse with straying women might pay off in a good sexual relationship. After all, these women are in effect breaking with their church and peers. And you can help them along by telling them that sex is good and that it is all right to do these "things." The problem is that after one or two sexual encounters, often she will go running back to her church and peers in tears and inform them of the terrible things done by those "sinners" (i.e., you). So you have to figure out if she is worth your effort.
She'll sleep with you, alright, often the first time out. But she just lies there in bed like a warmed over corpse. She can't be bothered to do anything in your direction, or she may have her orgasm, role over, and fall asleep (imagine such a thing!). You may try to communicate with her that her behavior is not exactly a turn-on since you gave up necrophilia for Lent. And her response, assuming she can bestir herself to speak? "I'm not that sort of a girl" or "I'm not into that sort of thing [i.e., actually moving in bed]" or "I am already submitting to your lusts" or "I enjoy counting ceiling tiles" or "If you do not like it, find sombody else." In the short term, I suppose these cold fish have their uses, in the long term they can be very, very frustrating. Whatever you do, do NOT marry one of them! Can you imagine putting up with her in bed for the rest of your life, or until the divorce? Shiver!
She's the one who initiates a conversation with you at a party, asks you for your phone number, calls you up, asks you out, bothers to show up for the date (instead of canceling out or standing you up), and actually shares expenses. She even believes in birth control! Fantastic. Go out with her!
She's the one going to raves by herself; who dyes her hair purple not to make a fashion statement but because she likes it that way; who hangs out on clothing optional beaches; who travels to third world countries without a tour group holding her hand. My experience is that the (real) rebel girls have rejected their peers and fears: i.e., they could care less what other women think of them, and at the same time, do not play the role of helpless female victim. Instead, they take on the world on their own terms. Often you can find such females in punk and goth clubs, hot tub parties and international hostels. You need to be a rebel too, if you want them to go out with you. Beware the poseurs, though.
.She does not talk about sex much. Instead, she will invite you up to her place, have birth control materials ready, along with candles and erotica, and even take the initiative when it comes to getting undressed. Dude, this is the promised land! Often these women do not broadcast their intentions openly -- for example, they may not dress up very much, and they certainly do not scream Woo Hoo in bars and clubs on Satureday nights. So who cares?
OK, OK, you may think it odd that I include groupies under the Good Girls. But think it out: women respond to male power, just as men respond to female nubility. So if you have earned status in your peer group, you will have females doing what comes natural, i.e., clustering around an alpha male, i.e., you, my man. Enjoy, but keep those condoms handy.