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Tuesday, January 29, 2008
It's Done
It really sucks to write a letter of resignation for a job you loved. There's none of the "see ya, suckers!" glee
that goes with leaving a job you didn't like or were tired of.
The effective date is May 15 (but may need to be tweaked). I'll deliver it on Thursday.
Wish this was easier.
5:24 pm pst
Monday, January 28, 2008
And In Slightly Less Depressing News...
Zach had his first "solid food" - rice cereal - on Saturday. You can check out his reaction here. We have since discovered that he definitely prefers his cereal thicker - the soupy stuff just seems to tick him off. Maybe
because it's like milk, but doesn't taste like milk? Only he knows for sure. He's been extra complainy the past couple of
days (yes, I know "complainy" isn't a real word), probably because now his stomach and intestines have to do more/different
work. We're down to the last two weeks of maternity leave. Zach will go do his "trial" day at daycare on Thursday. I'm
planning to shop for work clothes and maybe get my hair cut, two things that will definitely be easier to do on my own. I'm
also going to stop in to work to drop off my return to work stuff and my letter of resignation (relax, it'll be effective
May 15, with the caveat that we may fiddle with the date a little). My boss can't start looking for my replacement until
I do that, and conscientious audiologist that I am, I don't want to put her in the position of a) having to ask and
b) not having a decent amount of time to find my replacement. It takes longer than you'd think to find someone who'll be
a good fit.
Hmm, this is getting depressing again.
One bright side - Bryan pointed out that we haven't visited HP Pavilion in San Jose for a Wild game, so we'll be able to do
that next season. I'm sure I'll love living in the Bay Area once we get up and settled, it's just the un-settled-ness that's
upsetting right now. If only I could take my job with me!
9:31 pm pst
Rainy Days and Mondays
Well, Bryan got his orders today and we'll be moving to the San Francisco area in May. He's been assigned to Station Golden
Gate, with a report date between May 1 and June 1.
Although I really like the Bay Area, I'm really disappointed. Because I love my job here so much, I was really hoping we'd
be able to stay. And if we couldn't stay, I was really hoping for something in Washington, closer to family, friends and
job contacts. Bryan seems disappointed as well - Golden Gate was pretty far down on his list of picks, and my guess is that
the powers that be decided he's spent enough time on a boat, now he needs to go to a station.
Military life is a real bummer sometimes. I'll have to start from scratch in terms of finding a job, and we'll have to figure
out daycare arrangements for Zach - again starting from scratch. The only consolation is that we won't have to pack the house
to move, movers will do it.
Bummer, bummer, bummer.
8:41 am pst
Friday, January 18, 2008
Beware of Animals!
 On Wednesday, Bryan found himself with a random
day off (well deserved, since they were underway for 8 of the previous 9 days, and he'd had duty on their one day in port,
so he was stuck at the boat), so we decided to make use of our Disney passes one more time. They expire on Monday, and we're
trying to figure out whether to renew or not. On the one hand, we only need to go up four times for it to be worth the cost,
but then again, we don't know if we'll be staying in San Diego, so we'd have to get up there pretty much monthly. It's not
that hard to do, we've certainly done it before, but we're still trying to make the decision.
We hit up Storytellers Cafe at the Grand Californian Hotel for breakfast. We end up at Storytellers on pretty much every visit to Disneyland. After two years of annual passes (with
an average of 8+ trips over the course of the year), we're maybe a little less impressed with the park food. Storytellers
is relaxing because there aren't usually hordes of screaming children or bratty teenagers, the service is usually excellent
(unless you get Gloria) and the food is pretty good, certainly better than what you'll round up in the park. We got ourselves
set up for the breakfast buffet, and soon discovered that it wasn't just breakfast, we had stumbled into a character breakfast!
We were joined by Pocahontas, Chip, Dale, Baloo, Brother Bear and a raccoon whose name escapes me. Naturally, everyone (including
the wait staff) gravitated toward Zach, who found the whole experience to be only slightly interesting. As they marveled
about the fact that he wasn't scared of any of them and entertained him, Bryan and I were able to eat breakfast in relative
peace. Mickey-shaped waffles and lots of hot chocolate with whipped cream (including a to-go round) later, we were off to
the parks.
Mid-week in mid-January was a perfect time to go, and I highly recommend either that or mid-October. The park was
deserted (by Disney standards) and we were able to get on all the rides with at worst, a 5-10 minute wait. I think Indiana Jones was about 7, everything else was less, even Space Mountain. As a matter of fact, on a couple of times through Space Mountain, they weren't even assigning rows. Since Zach can't go
on a whole lot, that made it easy for one of us to do some rides, switch off and then let the other person ride. Zach did
get to go on Buzz Lightyear and Winnie The Pooh. The Haunted Mansion was closed for removal of the Nightmare Before Christmas overlay, but pretty much everything else was open. Over in California
Adventure, we hit up Screamin' and The Tower of Terror. Pretty much all the rides at Disneyland and California Adventure were walk-on, so it was a great day in terms of being
able to get on and off of rides! 
One thing you should know about if you're going to Disney with a baby is the Baby Care Center. It's a godsend. The Disneyland
one is located off of Main Street, tucked back between the Plaza Inn and the Photo Center. The California Adventure baby
care center is in the Pacific Wharf area, around the corner from the Mission Tortilla Factory - that one's a little tougher
to find. They both have nice padded changing tables, high chairs for feeding and a nursing area. They also sell diapers,
wipes, baby food and formula, so if you run out of supplies, you're not up a creek. I have no idea as to pricing, as we haven't
needed to buy anything while we've been there, but I have a feeling that when you need diapers or wipes, you'll pay just about
anything to get them! The nursing area at California Adventure is more private - two chairs curtained off from one another
- but Disneyland has a greater capacity, five or six chairs that face the same direction so you don't have to stare at someone
else's boob while you're feeding your little one. Everyone's allowed in the changing and feeding areas, but only moms and
babies can go into the nursing area. The centers are staffed, so there are folks to direct you to where you need to go and
do some crowd control when the park is full.
Since I'll be returning to work in a couple of weeks, that'll limit our ability to sneak up there mid-week, but if Bryan gets
a random Thursday or Friday off, we could do it. We'll have to talk about it some more, but I have a feeling we may end up
renewing our passes. It's a little trickier to go to Disney with a baby (and Zach crashes at about 6:30 and just needs to
go home and get to bed), but if we end up moving somewhere else, the opportunities to run over to Disneyland will be a lot
fewer and more far between!
10:58 am pst
Monday, January 14, 2008
Don't Wake a Sleeping Baby
Zachary is a pretty good baby, generally speaking. He's more of a morning person, with maximum cheerfulness occurring between
about 7 and 11 am. He is also a baby who knows what he wants, and is pretty insistent about being fed now when he
gets hungry. He's also a baby who really needs his naps. If we have a hectic day of running around and he can only grab
a catnap or two in the car, he's a bear by the end of the day. Usually the best nap of the day starts around 10 or 10:30
and if I'm lucky, he'll sleep for two hours, ensuring a friendly baby until 7:30 in the evening or so. If I'm not lucky,
he'll sleep about 20 minutes and be a crab by 6 pm.
I ordered some digital prints online through Costco ($0.17 for a 4 x 6, and they do a very nice job, which I figure is a lot
cheaper than burning photo ink printing a whole bunch of them at home) and had planned to pick them up at 11 today. I got
Zach squared away in his car seat and then went to the bathroom to run a brush through my hair. I got to thinking about the
other things I need to pick up at Costco - a flat or two of water for Bryan, toilet paper, Aleve, dog food...heavy, bulky
things that would be a lot easier to get without balancing a car seat on a shopping cart. Ponytail freshly in place, I decided
that maybe it'd be better to run out by myself tonight once Bryan's home and can stay with Zach. So I headed back to the
living room to find Zach completely zonked out in his car seat. I don't dare wake him up to put him in his crib or I may
lose my shot at his one good nap today, so I'm just going to let him snooze until he wakes up, and plan to head to Costco
a little later this evening.
11:10 am pst
Saturday, January 12, 2008
The Final Four
No, I'm not talking about college basketball. I'm a hockey girl, remember?
I'm down to the final four weeks of maternity leave. I'm just now getting the hang of life with a baby and it's almost time
to throw work back into the mix. As previously mentioned, this is causing more of an internal conflict for me than expected.
I never really dug the whole "stay at home mom" idea, mostly because I (generally) like what I do and I'm very
good at it. (That's not ego, that's patient surveys and performance reviews talking.) It never occurred to me that the
idea of someone else being there instead of me for Zachary's milestones would be so hard. Part of me can't wait to get back
to work and start setting up shop in the new clinic - and that part of me has been in touch with my boss every couple of weeks
during leave to make sure X, Y and Z are getting done, ordered, etc. Part of me can't stand the notion that Zach will be
with other people for potentially 11 hours a day, and that I will only get to spend time with him at the end of the day, when
we're both cranky and tired.
So after lots of discussion (between us, between me and my boss, between us and daycare), Bryan and I have settled on me working
three days a week. It will give us a good balance of income (always a good thing) and being home with Zach. This has been
a hard enough decision to make, but then I've been getting the impression that some folks think I should work more. Other
folks think I should work less. Anybody know a polite way to tell people to back off? I'm not kidding, tears have been shed
over this subject and it's hard enough to arrive at a decision without having people criticize you (indirect though it may
be) for it. Now that a decision has been made, I'm not discussing it with anyone anymore. I'm probably not even going to
bring it up with anyone in an informative (as in "we've decided...") way, either.
10:59 am pst
Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Busy, Busy, Busy
 We've had a busy holiday season. Now that things
are winding down, I'm hoping to post a little more regularly. For New Year's Day, we went to Sea World (we have annual passes,
so it's a breeze) and you can see Zach enjoyed himself at the beer tasting in the hospitality pavilion! Just kidding, no
actual adult beverages were consumed by Zach or myself (disclaimer for those who have no sense of humor).
It's hard to believe, but I head back to work in another month and a half. We've made daycare arrangements for Zach at one
of the local centers. I'm finding that choosing daycare is like choosing how to feed your child - everyone has an opinion
about it, regardless of the fact that it's your decision, not theirs. We're still way down on the waiting list for childcare
at Miramar (the local Marine base), so we did some research, weighed our options, made some visits and chose a place. I'm
having a harder time with the process than I expected - I'm much more reluctant to hand him over to someone else 3-4 days
a week than I thought I would be. He's finally getting to be fun, and I'll be missing out! That's part of why the plan is
to work only part time and see how we manage.
California is a great place to have a baby. There are plenty of other things that make it bizarre and/or a pain (professional
licensing requirements, insane drivers, etc), but California provides you with up to four weeks of paid disability before
the birth, six weeks of disability after the birth and six weeks of paid family leave after the disability benefits run out.
Although we planned and budgeted for me to be off of work, the fraction of my normal salary that disability/paid family leave
has provided has been helpful, to say the least.
I'm looking forward to going back to work for the sake of going back to work. I miss the people. The medical group is opening
a new clinic, closer to my home, and I'll be working at that clinic 2-3 days a week, 2 of which will be with my favorite doctor.
The other day a week, I'll be in Chula Vista, near the border, but that will work well because that'll be Bailey's dog daycare
day. If only I could work and take Zach with me! I don't think he'd be too good at keeping quiet during hearing tests, though!
We've also decided to try signing (ASL) with Zach. I'm far from fluent (I mostly know only signs for animals, which generally
aren't too helpful in conversation unless you're talking about the zoo), but I've got several books and I just need to keep
ahead of the little guy. We're taking it a few signs at a time, right now just MOMMY, DADDY, EAT and BATH. We'll add PACIFIER
and DIAPER over the next few weeks. I'm not expecting miracles, but studies have shown that babies that sign develop language
more quickly, so we'll see what happens.
Anyway, that's pretty much the rundown. My plan for the next six weeks is to enjoy my time with Zach and start transitioning
to behaviors that will work a little better for daycare. He definitely prefers to be held for his afternoon nap, but that's
not practical outside the house, so we'll be working on that.
Bring on 2008!
2:33 pm pst
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