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This weblog is my online journal of my life and times as wife of the U.S. Ambassador to the Democratic Republic of Congo. I designed this blog and make entries with my family and friends in mind. 

Tuesday, June 30, 2009

MED EVAC'D AGAIN
This time it's Bill...not me! Shortly after we returned from our vacation in Zanzibar, Bill started having severe intestinal pain (about June 3 or 4 for the timeline). The Embassy's Nurse-Practitioner thought it was a parasite. She treated it and he felt better over the weekend. But on Tuesday, June 9, the pain returned with a vengence. The Embassy's med unit put Bill into the Kinshasa hospital immediately; he was there for two nights. Although his "numbers" were getting better, after consultation with the Regional Medical Officers in both Nairobi & Pretoria, Bill was med evac'd to South Africa.

We left on Thursday June 11 by air ambulance; after a 3.5 hour flight we were in UNITAS Hospital in Pretoria. Bill was diagnoised with Pancreatitis.

For those of you who know us, this is Bill's second bout with Pancreatitis. He first had it when he was USAID Mission Director in Eritrea. Then he was med evac'd to London. After 6 weeks on IVs for food & water at Princess Grace Hospital in London, Bill recuperated for another month in the States. It was finally determined that the pancreatitis was brought on by a rare parasite that entered through his skin. That bug was treated & Bill was fine again.

This time, the doctors seem to think this bout was brought on by the passage of a gall stone or "sludge" that damaged the bile duct that connects the gall bladder & the pancreas. After treatment and a number of painful days & nights and about 2 weeks in the hospital, Bill is feeling better. He was released on June 23 but only to Pretoria. We had to spend another 10 - 15 days here. Bill is doing well now and feels pretty good. He tires very easily -- not unexpected after so much time in the hospital. Yesterday, Bill had a follow up blood test and he has an appointment with the Embasssy doctor (Regional Medical Officer) on Thursday. Assuming all is well, we'll return to Kinshasa on Saturday, July 4.

No matter the cause, and we know there may very well have been multiple things, Bill's life will have to change. He has chronic pancreatitis. He needs to follow a lower fat diet, get more exercise and avoid alcohol all together. If you know us, you know Bill's favorite foods were Potato Chips and scotch! I sure hope clean living doesn't do us in!

We are currently staying at a very nice guest house in Pretoria -- Matisse's Nook. We have a large one-room cottage with a thatched roof. It's lovely; the hosts are delightful. But we are cold. Temps have been particularly low and there's no central heating. For some reason, the 50 degree F temp daytime & freezing temp at night here feel colder to me than the 40 degrees of Michigan in March! But it is lovely and the sun is warm.

When we left Congo, Sam (DCM) and Odile (his wife) took over the management of the July 4th Committee. They are doing a great job. They have lots of help from the Embassy family. The official celebration is scheduled for July 3 from 6-8 p.m. at the Residence. Sam & Odile will preside over the ceremony.

If our flight is on time on Saturday, we should arrive at the Residence shortly after the beginning of the American Community July 4th picnic/carnival. So we will get to celebrate at least part of the holiday. We are anxious to get home and to see Sydney again.

In spite of the many challenges we've had over the past year, we know we are blessed and very fortunate. We have wonderful family, friends and colleagues who give us tremendous support. This site was never intended to be a litany of ailments, tradegies and sadness!

Again, if you feel compelled to send Bill flowers, etc., please instead send a contribution to www.StandProud.org; an organization that provides treatment and a new life to children and young adults with polio and leg & foot deformities. Your thoughts, prayers and moral support are most appreciated.
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Friday, June 5, 2009

VACATION IN ZANZIBAR!!!
IT WAS WONDERFUL!
We left Kinshasa mid-day on Friday, May 22.  We arrived in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia at 8 p.m.  We were given VIP treatment all the way. Met at the gate by airport personnel and escorted to the VIP lounge where U.S. Ambassador Yamamoto (good friend of Bill's) was waiting for us.  His staff wisked away with our passports and baggage claim tickets.  Although we were invited to stay at the Residence with the Yamamotos, we stayed in the Sheraton. I had found a very good rate on the internet and made the reservations even before we knew the Yamamotos would have time to see us.  Bill had been to Addis so many times in his career, I wanted to see the city.  Our options were to fly through Nairobi on Kenya Airlines or go through Addis on Ethiopian Air.  So, I picked Ethiopia Air. 
 
On Saturday, we took a brief tour of the city ... we visited Meneluks Musoleum and St. George's Church.  We also went to the Lion Zoo but that was a mistake -- the lions are in very small cages!  But since the Zoo has been there since the time of Haile Salasse, I think these lions were raised there; they seemed somewhat content.   Saturday evening the Yamamotos took us to a lovely Italian restuarant.  Great company, nice conversation. Maggie is an artist. Although we missed her exhibition, we did see the work she had hanging in their home. Very nice!  We'd buy it!
 
On Sunday we left late morning for Zanzibar.  We stopped in Dar es Salaam but did not deplane -- we were there for <45 minutes.  Then we flew over the amazing blue waters of the Indian Ocean and in <20 minutes were in paradise! 
 
We stayed Sunday - Wednesday at the Serena Hotel on the Indian Ocean in Stone Town, the old city.  On Monday we toured the city - saw the slave market and where the slaves were housed until shipped of to Arabia, etc. The streets of Stone Town are very narrow.  We had a great guide.  We stopped for beverages at Mercury Bar & Grill.  Freddie Mercury of QUEEN is originally from Zanzibar! 
 
Tuesday was my first massage -- outside, by the Serena's pool.  It was great. Bill relaxed, sunned & read.  Bill & I also started playing Gin!
 
Wednesday we took about a 45 minute taxi ride to the Zamani Kempinski Resort - 5 star all the way. Our bathroom was as big as the bedroom (and it was big!).  There was an outdoor as well as indoor shower and delightful tub. We also had a semi-private rooftop terrace as well as a balcony off the bedroom.  We, of course, had a view of the beautiful gardens and the Indian Ocean.  The bed was glamorous with it's sophisticated misquito netting.
 
I immediately made arrangements for another massage & facial series.  Bill sunned, read, relaxed and I beat him at Gin -- well maybe 55% of the time; we were quite even overall I'd guess although he did skunk me more than I skunked him! 
 
It was off season but the weather was perfect.  There were a few other guests but not crowded even when it came to the weekend.  I'm sure the honeymooners there looked at us and said..."will that be us in 40 years?!"  We swam in the pool, read, sunned, played Gin.  It was a perfect vacation.  The meals were good -- we ate fresh seafood! 
 
On Sunday, May 31, we packed and returned to overnight in Addis.  It seems all African International Fights to Kinshasa are a.m. flights, so an overnight is required on the return trip.  We saw Amb Yamamoto again, went back to the Sheraton, slept and left for the airport at 7 a.m.  We were happily back in Kinshasa by 2 p.m on June 1 -- but only after landing in Brazzaville.  We were on the ground there for an hour, then took off again to fly 10 minutes over the Congo River to the Kinshasa airport.  It was quite interesting. 
So you're probably ho-humming, saying No snorkeling, no scuba, etc.  (Neither of us really likes salt water -- we're Michiganders at heart!).  To us, it was the perfect restful vacation.  Upon my return, many friends said I "glowed"....I'm sure that was  thanks to the Thai massage & Thai facial I had at the Kempinski. 
 
Tuesday, June 2 was right back into the fray.  The IWC had its last meeting of the season at our house; we had a mini-bazaar too. Odile & I bought tie-dyed material. We're going to have Father Guido's sewing students make our July 4 dresses!  Tuesday afternoon was the July 4 committee meeting -- we're in the final stretch now.  The Residence staff is busily making & freezing 1,200 mini-hamburgers for Big Event. That's just the beginning!
 
On Wednesday, June 3, the Embassy held a Health Faire.  On the way there, Kinshasa reality hit me full-force when I drove pass a poor, disabled man sitting/begging by the side of Ave Justice.  He was holding a baby that didn't look too good.  The man himself was very skinny and had a fresh bandage on a very awkwardly positioned, very  skinny leg. Whatever his problem, I don't think that leg would heal correctly.  Tears came to my eyes.  In some ways things are better in Kinshasa; in many ways things are worst - poor people suffer greatly here each day. 
 
 
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May Update
May was an amazingly busy month -- similar to late August and early September last year but for different reasons.  It's probably because I try to cram lots of stuff in before we leave the country.
 
May 1 is of course Labor Day around the world, except in the US.  After a fairly quiet weekend, the month began as almost all months do...with the monthly meeting of the International Women's Club - Kinshasa.  This was our election meeting:  Hanne (Norwegian Honorary Counsel) and I are again co-presidents.  Odile has moved from Welfare Committee co-chair to co-Secretary and lead editor of the IWC's newsletter,  We have another wonderful team; I know the 2009/2010 year will be great.  The Club has grown from 32 members when I arrived in Dec 2007 to 85 members now!  Not because of me, I assure you!  As slow as Congo's progress seems to be, businesses are investing in this fledgling democracy.  The club's growth comes from some diplomats but many NGOs, local organizations and businesses.
 
On May 6, Bill traveled to the East and to Lubumbashi but the Residence still was the site of a Public Diplomacy Lunch for AMICUS leaders: AMI(friend)-Congo-US is the association of the returning "international visitors" to the US.  Sam, DCM, and Katya, Public Diplomacy Officer, hosted the lunch - I went to French class & had lunch at the still going strong and getting better every week African Queen! 
 
On May 7, I hosted a lunch for all the spouses of the Ambassadors to Congo.  There are about 35 of us; about 20 attended.  Nah, our chef, made his famous whole Capitaine (white fish, I think sea bass) and other goodies including Couscous.  The Northern African "ambassatrices" were impressed that I served couscous. I told them, the U.S. is a melting pot; we claim every kind of food as our own.  As long as I've been here, this is first such event ...but we vowed to do it again. I was especially pleased that so many of the African nations' ambassadors' spouses were able to attend.  Odile & I made a pitch for membership in the International Women's Club and we also alerted them to the upcoming visit of Operation Smile (see below). 
 
May 5: Cinco de Mayo at the Marine House: great tacos & chips as well as fine margaritas were the order of the day.  Many of the children got involved in a "pitched battle" with the Marines.  This resulted in the Marines offering "Operation Seek & Destroy" day for the Embassy kids on May 23.  From what I can tell in the photos, the Embassy kids (all boys as far as I can see) learned to apply camouflage paint, hold a gun (not real), "clear" rooms, and they ate MREs.  Heaven help those Moms & Dads!  I think both the kids and the Marines had a good time.  I'm glad we were on vacation because I fear Bill would have been among the kids!
 
Saturday, May 9: Bill's Office Management Specialist (Exec Assist in any other life) and the other Embassy OMSs hosted the "annual" Diplomatic Secretaries lunch.  We served 50 people, by request, another of Nah's famous whole fish, his famous potato salad and the local hit - Chicken Moamba (peanut sauce) as well as Nah's ever popular homemake ice cream.  Bill, of course, was still traveling but I assured the Group that the Ambassador was happy to host such an event because he knows who does the real work in all our embassies!  They loved it! And, we really do appreciate them all.
 
May 11: Odile hosted a pot luck lunch for the IWC volunteers who agreed to make lunches  on 4 separate days for the Operation Smile doctors, nurses, aides and other staff (90 in all).  At Odile's pot luck, we each brought a dish that we thought might make a good element of the brown bag lunches we would prepare. After an interesting, varied and friendly lunch, we set about the business of determing menus. We needed to make 45 vegetarian and 45 meat lunches for 4 different days.  The planning lunch was a success and below (May 21) you will see that the prep & serving of the lunches were a success as well.
 
May 12:  Reception in honor of the Falls Church City/Kokolopori, DRC sister-city relationship and the declaration of a new Bonobo Preserve in Kokolopori.  The Falls Church school students had sent me 31 different pictures depicting their understanding of bonobos (one of the 4 great apes, the one most closely related to humans and found only in the Congo) and life in the remote Congolese village of Kokolopori.  Sally Coxe of the Bonobo Conservation Initiative prepared a PowerPoint loop of photos of the Kokolopori area and the many wild bonobos there.  It was a fun and successful celebration.  Photos are posted at www.flickr.com/photos/congoambassador
 
May 13: My final AERWA (American Employee Recreation & Welfare Association) board meeting.  Odile, DCM's wife, took over as the new secretary for the Board along with 2 other new officers.
 
May 15: We wanted to make good use of the Falls Church students' art work and I wanted to show off our Art in Embassies work to more people. So, we decided to invite professors and students from the Academe des Beaux-Arts (Kinshasa art school) and teachers and student artists from TASOK.  We augmented the FCC artwork with works by the TASOK students - drawings, paintings, motion studies, pottery, etc.  TASOK musicians entertained; there was a brass combo, a flute solo and a wind trio as well as a performance of a "stomp" rhythmic group and a chorus.  What a wonderful way to spend a Friday afternoon.
 
Saturday, May 16: The TASOK 5th graders had raised enough money to provide a year's supply of PUR, water purifier, to the Stand Proud (www.standproud.org) handicapped center.  The students earned the money by hosting a dinner for parents and friends, which included various performances regarding the benefits of, and need for, clean water.  On the 16th, the 5th Graders, their teacher Ms Soumah along with representatives of PSI, the NGO that supplies PUR a product of Proctor&Gamble, and a few members of the Embassy family delivered the product to the residents/patients of Stand Proud.  Nah, our chef, had made lots of mini-pizzas and cookies and Ms. Soumah made a wonderful punch.  In addition to the fun picnic, the TASOK students demonstrated how to use PUR properly and then did a delightful skit about the importance of clean water.  They did it all in French; a PSI staff person translated to Lingala.  I've talked about Stand Proud before, it's a US NGO that provides surgeries to children & adolesants from 5 yr - 25 yrs who have leg and foot handicaps - due to polio or other reasons.  It's a wonderful group that makes a big difference in these kids lives.  I was told that there are 2 or 3 TASOKI high school students who did their mandatory "community service" project by volunteering at Stand Proud.  I'm very proud of our TASOK students...and teachers.  Another great day and we're only 1/2 through the month!
 
May 18: A UN Delegation come to town, including Susan Rice, U.S. Ambassador to the U.N.  Bill had meetings with the group all day on Monday and had a bi-lateral meeting with Ms. Rice and President Kabila.  The delegation left on Tuesday. No...we did not host any events for this group; the French Embassy had that honor!
 
May 19:  Opportunity International was in Congo seeking funding and doing prep work to open a new micro-credit bank here.  Carrie Slease is a member of the "Second Friday Breakfast Group" of which I have long been a member. When our colleagues in the group heard she was going to Congo, they told her she had to get in touch with me. She did...and we "had" to have the delegation over for dinner.  This was a buffet dinner for 18, Opportunity International representatives, some Congolese businesspeople and representatives of USAID and the Embassy's Econ Section.  Micro-credit can open doors for small businesses, entrepreneurs and especially women-owned businesses.  When Opportunity International opens shops here, it will join FINCA, ProCredit, and Hope International some of the other micro-credit organizations here. 
 
May 20:  The bi-monthly Business Roundtable reception. This event was a farewell to Econ Officer Chris Corkey, who came to Kinshasa just over 2 years ago. This was his first post as a foreign service officer.  He did a great job. His next post will be his consulate tour in Sydney, Australia -- WOW! 
 
May 21:  Operation Smile (www.operationsmile.org) is in town.  about a dozen members of the International Women's Club used our kitchen to prepare 90 brown bag lunchs for OS's doctors, nurses and other staff.  We made cheese & lettuce sandwiches for the vegetarians and roast beef sandwiches for the meat-eaters.  We also had a side of vegetable bread as well as other sweets. We offered plantain chips, popcorn, hard-boiled eggs and mandarins.  After we assembled the lunch bags, we delivered them to the hospital center where the operations would be preformed. Today was screening day.  Well over 550 patients and accompanying family members waited in the mid-day heat for an evaluation. You cannot imagine the heart-rending faces we saw.  Some with facial/cranial deformities or tumors, most with cleft lips or palates.  Over the next 7 days, the doctors performed 210 surgeries; the others were given "Priority Cards" for treatment when OS returns -- we hope soon.  Approximately 55 ex-patriot and 30 local medical volunteers did the work.  Odile led IWC's team in  providing 3 more days of lunches -- after Bill & I left for our vacation (see next posting).  More than 20 IWC volunteers made lunches and contributed ingredients.  The local bread factory - Pain Victoire - donated baguettes.  The first day went by with minimal glitches and, Odile reports, that successive lunch days were "a piece of cake."  It was one small thing the IWC and we could do for such a worthwhile cause.  If you're looking for a worthwhile charity, please consider supporting the work of Operation Smile (www.operationsmile.org). 
 
May 22: Bill's 60th Birthday and we leave for our vacation!  Even though we're gone, there was one more May event at the Residence. On May 27, the Public Diplomacy Officer hosted a Parlementary Roundtable for the AMICUS association; Bruno, Nah, Costa & Manuel -- our Residence staff -- did an excellent job helping with this event, I'm told. 
 
I will write about our vacation in the next Post -- it was a busy, busy month of May! 
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April Update
First of all, thank you to the many friends who responded to my blog regarding the recent deaths of my Mom & Bill's aunt.  Your warm thoughts and well wishes mean a great deal to both of us.
 
May was a busy, busy month...but it started at the end of April with a visit by General Ward, 4-Star in charge of AFRICOM.  He and his aid Brian stayed with us.  Brian is a techie who handles the General's secure communications network.  We had a number of small meetings for the Gneral at our house and Bill hosted a working diner, inviting many other Ambasssadors and their Defense Attaches.  The General is a very wonderful man, easy to talk with, gentile, kind and obviously well-respected by his staff.  Bill has high hopes for U.S. training of the Congo's armed forces. 
 
On April 25 the General left and we were able to go to the TASOK (The American School Of Kinshsa) school play: "The Mouse that Roared." It was delightful. All the students did a great job.  This was my 3rd TASOK play and I continue to be impressed. 
 
On April 28 we hosted a reception for 100 of the Returning International Visitors. These are professionals who have won "scholarships" to travel throughout the U.S. and meet with peers in their professions. 
 
On April 29, I went with the International Women's Club to deliver US$10,000 (in cash) to Father Guido's street boys organization; the Club raised this money at the Black/White Diner-Dance Fund-Raiser on March 28.  The work Father Guido does with street kids is heart warming.  He started his organization <10yrs ago.  His first effort is to heal the family schisms that have torn or driven these kids from their families.  He's often successful but not always.  He works with the children & adolesants, giving them not only food but also education and training.  We learned of success stories: a street boy who is now a baker & has his own family; another is now a masson and a third (among others) is working a farm in a rural community.  We visited the Center's workworking shop and sewing center, where they train young women & men to be tailors. On a related note, Odile & I plan to have Fra. Guido's tailors make our dresses for the July 4th Celebration!
 
April 30: Lunch for 30 defense attaches and their spouses on our veranda.  Luckily this was a catered event all handled and coordinated by the spouse of our Assistant Defense Attache. 
 
I'll write about May activities and then our Zanzibar vacation in the next posts.
 
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Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Settled in again
I've been back in Congo for 2 weeks now; I am settled in again and back into routines.  This week I  re-start my French classes. The week after I returned, the International Women's Club-Kinshasa held its April meeting at our house.  The Club hosted very successful fund-raising dinner-dance. We raised in excess of $20,000 for two charities: nurition centers for children and a "boys' town" to rehabilitate, educate and train street boys. Thank you to the wonderful, hard-working committee that made the event happen and so successful. 
 
I serve on the Board of the American Employees Recreation & Welfare Association (AERWA).  We had big excitement re-opening the small restaurant owned by the Association. It's known as the "African Queen."  After a bit of a storm-tossed launch, the African Queen seems to be sailing along nicely.  The Board decided to hire 2 chefs and use our Association Manager to direct the small staff.  It's a challenge but so far, so good!  We have limited the menu to a variety of sandwiches and 3 daily specials: American, Congolese and Vegetarian.  Check back with me next month and again in 3 months for a better evaluation.  The restaurant is an important service for the Mission community; it provides relatively quick meals for reasonable prices right on the campus of the Embassy's Administrative facilities. With experience, we hope to expand services. I have served as Secretary for the past year.  We are now in the semi-annual election cycle.  Since we were able to recruit 5 volunteers to run for the 3 open positions on the Board, I will "retire" from this position next month; but I will continue on as an active volunteer for the Association.
 
Next week we will host the visit by the General who heads up AFRICOM -- my first high-level military visit; I'm sure it will be a learning experience. The first 2 weeks of May are packed with representational events. 
 
May 17 - 26, we plan to take a week of vacation to Zanzibar, an island off the east coast of Africa, part of Tanzania.  Although it was a sad, emotional and stressful time in Michigan for me during March, it was a break from the stress and activities of Congo.  Bill has not had such a break since November.  He needs to refresh.  I'm getting great advice on where to stay and how to travel.  We likely will fly either Kenya Air or Ethopia Airlines to get from Kinshasa to Zanzibar.  We are planning to spend 3 or 4 days sightseeing in Stone Town and then retire to a resort on the coast for a few more days. 
 
Of course, planning for the July 4th celebration continues.  We are working on a more modest celebration this year than last, in consideration of generally overall bad economic times.  But its still will be a fun and wonderful celebration of the birth of American democracy.  The choir of the International Protestant Church of Kinshasa (IPCK) has agreed to sing both the Congolese and the U.S. national anthems.  Our Public Diplomacy (PD) Group is creating a PowerPoint presentation of the U.S. work in and support of the Congo. And, PD again will display American scenes displaying the awesome sights of our country. 
 
So that's it ... settling in to every day life in the U.S. Embassy community in Kinshasa.
 
Until next time....
 
 
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Thursday, March 26, 2009

More sadness...Goodbye, Jane
On Tuesday, March 24, Bill's aunt Marjorie (Jane) DePree died.  She was 89 yrs old, never married and lived with Bill's family for his entire life.  She was a wonderful aunt, almost a second mother.  She gave us unqualified support throughout our graduate school and early career days.  She believed in us and helped us in ways too numerous to recount. We will miss her.
 
Jane's funeral is tomorrow (Friday, March 27).  Bill cannot come home but I'm here. Convenient but not happy!  I will represent both of us at both funerals - Jane's on Friday and my mom's on Saturday. 
 
This has been an unbelievable year when it comes to sadness touching our lives.  But we're had wonderful support from the Embassy family, our friends throughout the world, and our families.  Thank you and God bless you all.
 
 
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Monday, March 23, 2009

So long to Mama
My mom passed away at about 12:40 p.m. (ET) on Friday, March 20, the first day of Spring 2009.  The past 3 weeks have been a roller coaster of emotions.  When her children gathered at her side, Mom rallied. 
 
When she was doing well, I went to Washington, DC for 3 days to check in with my surgeon & new internist (the internist who discovered my tumor retired on Dec 31).  All's well, no problems, I'll check in again the next time we're in the States.
 
Also, since Mom was doing quite well, my siblings (there are 7 of us in total) decided to leave as well.  My next older sister had to get back to work. My oldest brother had to return to Florida; Michigan cold is hard on his health (he's 73).  When I returned from DC, my two oldest sisters decided it was time for them to go back to Florida to fulfill some commitments and to collect the things they'd left there when they had rushed to Mom's side.
 
My 2nd brother Harv & his wife Margaret had returned from their Winter stay in Texas with the intent of staying in Michigan for the Spring & Summer.  I decided to stay longer so that my sisters could take care of their affairs in Florida.  Harv & I were supported by my dedicated nieces and nephews, especailly my oldest niece Marcia.  My siblings called every day.
 
The week of March 16, Mom deteriorated rapidly.  She slept most of Tuesday and Wednesday.  But she had an "awakening" on Wednesday eveing & commented that she had lost a whole day.  On Thursday March 19 she was lucid and spoke clearly. She spoke with every one of her children.  Mom knew that she was loved and that all her children were with her to the very end.
 
Friday morning, she was "gurgling"; the nurse told us it would not be long.  So, brother Harv & I stayed by her side and held her hands until she fell into a deep sleep.  I read some Bible passages: various Psalms, John 1, and the Gospel accounts of the Resurrection. We know she heard the passages. 
 
At 12:30 p.m. I kissed her good-bye and left to have lunch with Bill's nephew Bryan and his family.  Not more than 10 minutes later, Harv noticed that Mom was no longer breathing.  She went Home and joined my father and sister in Glory.  As the song says, "until we meet again"!
 
Due to siblings' travel schedules the funderal is scheduled for Saturday March 28. Since we are somewhat scattered, this week gives us time to morn together. I expect to return to Kinshasa on Sunday March 29, arriving on March 30. 
 
I thank God for my wonderful family. I also am thankful for the support and comfort I've received from my friends.  If you feel moved to make a donation in memory of my Mom, I urge you to consider www.StandProud.org, which helps handicapped children in the Congo.  It's a 501(c)(3) and you can donate online.
 
Thank you to all
Linda
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Friday, February 27, 2009

Emergency Trip HOME
It just hit me that I still call Holland/Zeeland, Michigan "home" even though I haven't lived there for more than 37 years.  It's where my mom is and most of my siblings & nieces & nephews, etc. are.  But I'm blessed to have at least 3 homes: Michigan, DC area & now Kinshasa.
 
I started writing lots of people but realize it was too big a task to try to reach everyone. So I hope my friends are still reading my blog occasionally. 
 
My mom is gravely (terminally) ill.  She is 95 years old and has congestive heart failure and now her kidneys are failing. Last week my first niece Marcia & first nephew Bob helped get my mom into the Hospice of Holland.  The doctor says that her meds are no longer working and the best thing is to keep her comfortable.  From the photos Marcia sent, the place is beautiful, very homey. 
 
My "snow-bird" brothers & sisters are heading back to Zeeland from Florida & Texas.  I have a flight on Monday evening and will arrive in Grand Rapids on Tuesday evening, March 3.  Bill cannot come to the States with me but he will be flying to Brussels with me.  He has to continue on to Stuttgart for a meeting with the Military's African Command - General Ward.  He'll return to Kinshasa on Thursday, March 6.
 
This week, the Nurse-Practitioner here did my follow up blood & urine tests.  She found an urinary infection (asymtomatic); we're treating it with medication.  But, when I'm in the States I'll arrange an appointment with my urologist/surgeon and "hop" down to DC but only for a day or two.  I plan to be in the States up to 3 weeks. 
 
If you had the cell phone # I used when in the States last Fall, I'm borrowing that again. It should be active after Tuesday.  And, I'll stay in touch by email (& blog).
 
Thanks to all for your concern and prayers.
Sincerely - Linda
 
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Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Lesson from Maruja
If you read the immediately previous entry, you know what an emotional time we had last week.  I'm over the "boo-hoo, the FS spouse's lot is tough."  I see now the lessons that I learned from Maruja.  Most importantly, beinging involved in the communities (Embassy, diplomatic, Spanish speaking, church, and local) is important to making the most of an overseas assignment.  Maruja had so many friends to provide love and support through her most difficult time because she gave so much of herself and her time to others everyday. 
 
She enriched the community and, I know in turn, the community enriched her life.  Maruja will be remembered by many, many people in Kinshasa - not to mention all the many other areas of the world she served with Jim.
 
Maruja didn't wait for people to invite her to participate; she was a self-starter and initiated many great projects. I don't think you'll find a much better fund-raiser anywhere.  She was expert at getting other people involved too.  She quickly became everyone's friend. 
 
I was very fortunate to know both Maruja and Jim.  I will count Maruja among my friends for many years to come.  I thank her for her example and will continue to be inspired by her actions and generosity. 
 
P.S. You know being involved is important in U.S. (or other home country locations) as well as when overseas.  It's a lesson for all -- give and you'll get multiples back!
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Monday, February 16, 2009

Embassy Mourning
Sunday, February 8, one of the USAID personal service contractors - Jim Conway - had a massive heart-attack while playing tennis on the Residence court. I was in Church; Bill was working upstairs and didn't hear a thing.  The Embassy's medical personnel arrived promptly, but nothing could be done.  There seems to be some evidence that he was dead before he even hit the ground.  Jim was 69 years old. He and his wife Maruja (Peru native) were very active in the Diplomatic and Congolese communities.  They lived in Africa for more than 20 years and additional years in Latin America, etc.  He was a food-for-peace and disaster-assistance professional.  Maruja taught English & Spanish at the Belgian School here.  She was recently elected president of KinAcceuill (the French-language women's club similar to the International Women's Club, which is English).  Why do I tell you all this?  It's because for Maruja that's all at an end.  She is living every foreign service spouse's nightmare.
 
When the Embassy employee dies, the spouse is "out."  Basically we have no status.  Because of all Maruja's involvements, she wanted to accompany Jim's body to California, be with her children and other family, bury him and then return to Congo to finish her teaching contract & pack out.  Fine...but she'd have to do it at her own expense and she'd have to move out of Embassy-provided housing.  She loses all status.  And with the current housing shortage we have, it's unlikely the Embassy would even have been able to allow her to pay rent on her own for the apartment they occupied (also the cost would be in the neighborhood of $5,000/month - not really in reach of a teacher's salary here). Actually she would not be able to stay in the apartment because it's in an Embassy compound, she no longer would have the appropriate clearances. 
 
Maruja's & Jim's children are grown and live in California. But mulitply this many times over if they had children who were young or school age.  State provides counselors, etc. to help with the transition.  Of course, the family would want to leave with the body of their loved one, and that would be the return tirp home for all. 
 
We all mourn the loss of a good friend and colleague - Jim.  But the foreign service spouses are also mourning for our sister -- who but for the grace of God could be us!  Jim's death made us all face the fact....our status is dependent on the employee.  If Maruja had been working in the Embassy, say in the Consular section or as the Community Liaison Officer both of which are "Eligible Family Member" positions, she would have lost her job.  The State Department may have considered helping her transition to officer position if she were the counsular "associate" who had received specific counsular training. 
 
This is not news to me, I was very aware of this...based on our earlier Foreign Service experience.  Nevertheless, it's a very, very sobering realization when it actually happens.  Many of the spouses believe USAID (Jim's speicific employer) and State are being too beaucratic.  But it's protocol and regulations. 
 
I read once, that Mrs. Kennedy said this was one of the hard parts of her transisiton when President Kennedy was killed.  She stayed in the White House, I believe, until after the funeral & burial ceremonies.  I don't know if the Johnson's moved in (probably so for security & protocol reasons) or waited until after the funeral.  But, I read, that, while she was at the cemetery, lighting the eternal flame, the White House staff was packing and moving her out of the White House.  It's regulation and protocol.  It really cannot be changed.
 
It is sobering and a sad reminder for all us spouses.  Coincidentally, I had already invited all Embassy spouses to our Residence for my semi-annual Spouses' Lunch on February 20.  I plan to use that time to encourage the spouses to share their feelings and to counsel as best I can those who need it.  My message will be the same as any women's group --- we must be prepared to care for ourselves in the worst case.  We must know about finances.  We need wills.  We need to be involved in the management of our homes and be prepared for the worst case scenario. For example, Maruja knows nothing about taxes. Someone reminded her that taxes are due in April -- she said "what am I going to do?" Fortunately, I'm sure her sons & daughter will be able to help her.  And, that's why, as cruel as the State Department/USAID's position is, it's good that she move back into her family's arms as quickly as possible. 
 
Back to my message to our spouses, we only need to be as dependent as we let ourselves be.  As difficult as the transition would be, we do have amazing experience that can be translated into a new direction for our own lives if we lose our spouse and, hence, our position with the Foreign Service.  On the positive side, spouses in a hardship post such as Kinshasa live everyday with the possibility of evacualtion of non-essential personnel.  We have to be prepared...and that may give us a leg up on our spouse colleagues in less tenative posts.  But the truth is, if evacuated, we all expect to be back within a few weeks to a couple months and pick up our lives again. We don't expect a permanent life-change.
 
Oh, one other thing to conclude this story, on Sunday when Maruja telephoned her daughter (4 a.m. Pacific time); Maruja could not get the words out to tell her daughter about Jim's death.  She handed the phone to me and said, "would you please tell her."  I tell you, I said a prayer and said the truely most difficult words of my life: "This is Linda Garvelink, I am the U.S. Ambassador's wife. I am sorry to tell you your father passed away this morning.  He had a massive heart-attack; they did everything they could but he passed away."  Of course, there was disbelief from the daughter and I had to repeat it again.  She broke down & I expressed our sympathy and told her I would hand the phone back to her mother.
 
2:39 am pst

Thursday, January 22, 2009

January 2009 Activities

January 2, 2009:  Bill officiated for a performance award and a promotion for two of our Marines.  I'd been looking forward to this. Although other Marines have been promoted since we arrived, the ceremonies always happened when Bill was out of the country. Sam officiated as Chargé d’Affaires.  This is a fun activity for any Ambassador, to pin the new rank on the promoted Marine. In this case, the Marine earned the rank of Staff Sergeant, a big accomplishment especially considering that Richard is quite young for the achievement.  Danny, another Marine, was honored for his outstanding work in preparing for the Marines recent inspection.  It was a wonderful event, low-keyed but joyful nonetheless. A great honor for Ambassador Garvelink as well.  I will post photos to my FLICKR account, just give a little more time www.flickr.com/photos/congoambassador).

 

January 6 was the first meeting of the International Women’s Club in the new calendar year. It was a small meeting, about 30 people.  We just had tea and chatted, no program since so many of our members were still out of town.  The IWC now has more than 70 members and growing with each meeting.  We also have lots of activities: regular yoga, crafts, & Jujitsu classes along with visit to businesses and charities in Kinshasa.  We also still have our monthly Lunch Out at a local restaurant.  While I was gone, the Club funded the construction of toilets and showers for Stand Proud (www.standproud.org), a US not-for-profit that funds surgeries and provides rehabilitation for children and some adults with lower limb paralysis and other disabilities.  The Club is planning various fund-raising events that will benefit many other charities in Congo.  Our next meeting is on February 3; the speaker will be Gisele from the World Bank, she will discuss the issue of Child Soldiers in Congo. 

 

On January 7 Bill hosted 35 or so members of the Embassy staff: State, USAID, Centers for Disease Control, Military, etc. for a working session (& lunch) to begin development of the Mission’s Strategic Plan for FY2011. 

 

On January 12, I returned to French classes.  My time away from everyday French shows; I am again mixing Spanish words with French. But, the good news is that it’s coming back quickly and I think my grammar is actually improving.  I’m never going to be a native speaker but I do communicate – successfully most of the time.

 

On January 15, we had our first meeting to discuss our July 4, 2009 festivities.  I am still chairman; the Ambassador has not ousted me and the Embassy staff has not revolted. So I’m leading the charge again. We decided to hold the official July 4 event on Friday, July 3.  It’s more convenient for our diplomatic and government guests to have the event on a weekday (I speak from experience as a guest at other national days).  That means we can have the American Community celebration on Saturday, July 4.  This year we are going to feature local Congo products such as cassava, plantains, and cosa cosas (fresh water shrimp).  The Embassy sections are already working on preparing the guest lists (not a small task for more than 1,500 invitations).

 

January 15 evening was the first “Hail & Farewell” since we returned. We’re saying good-bye to way too many wonderful officers. But we welcomed a nice contingent of new faces and families.  Such is the Foreign Services live.  This Embassy is blessed with very qualified personnel.

 

January 16 & 17 are Congolese holidays, the Embassy was closed (although Bill and others, of course, did work).  The days are “Heroes Days,” the 16th is the anniversary of the assassination of Laurent Kabila, father of the current president, and the 17th is the anniversary of the assassination of Lumumba, one of the fathers of Congo’s independence.  January 19, of course, was Martin Luther King Day.  Therefore, the Embassy had a nice long holiday weekend.  A few officers took advantage and went to Pointe Noire in the Republic of Congo.  There is a very nice resort there that I am determined Bill & I will get to sometime this year.

 

January 19:  Ambassador Stuart Symington & his wife Susan (U.S. Ambassador to Rwanda) arrived.

 

January 20 morning:  The Symingtons & I along with a very nice representation of the official Embassy-Kinshasa community boarded speed boats to cross the Congo River to Brazzaville. Ambassador Al Eastham and his wife Carolyn hosted the opening of the new Embassy building in Brazzaville, Republic of Congo.  It was a lovely and touching affair. It was very emotion to watch the Marines raise the US flag over the Embassy for the first time.  After the ceremony and a tour of the new facilities, the Easthams took the Symingtons and me to lunch at Mama Wata (mother waters) , an open-air restaurant situation on the banks of the Congo River.  Shortly before 1:30 p.m. the Symingtons and I were back on the boat for the 10 minute crossing of the Congo River. 

 

Back in Kinshasa, we visited Stand Proud (www.standproud.org). I wanted to show the Symingtons a project that is supported both by USAID and the International Women’s Club of Kinshasa.  I also wanted to see the new toilets and showers that were built while I was away.  I have wonderful photos of the kids playing soccer very nimbly in their braces.  I will post them to FLICKR in the next few days.

 

January 20 evening:  We hosted a reception for 70 government ministers, national assembly personnel and diplomats to watch the inauguration of President Obama and to witness the peaceful transition of power in a 232 year old democracy.  We had 2 large screen TVs position on our covered veranda.  Although we’d been having trouble receiving AFN (Armed Forces Network) due to heavy rains and storms, reception on Tuesday evening was almost perfect.  The other TV was tuned to DSTV (out of South Africa) the France 24 channel.  So we had both English and French commentary.  It was a big success even though only a small number of the invited government representatives were able to attend. The diplomats, including China’s ambassador, were there, impressed and touched. 

 

Bill did not go to Brazza because President Kabila called a meeting with all the ambassadors of UN Security Council member countries to discuss the situation in the East.  Bill did not share the details of this meeting with me….can you believe it, he may be concerned about my ability to keep a secret!

 

Janaury 21:  The Symingtons had to leave at 5:30 a.m. to catch the MONUC (UN Mission to Congo) flight back to Goma, from where they drove back to Kigali, Rwanda.  I’m ashamed to say, I slept through their departure. But our steward Bruno was up to give them coffee and a light breakfast. Alas, what happened to being able to “party” late and get up early!!!  Bill had set his alarm but it went off in the afternoon at 5:10 p.m. – they a.m./p.m. button is tricky!

 

January 22: today – I have to go now to get ready for the Board meeting of the International Women’s Club. 

 

But quickly, a comment on the Rwandans in the East…I’ve received a number of questions.  I preface this with a reminder that this is my opinion, nothing official of the Embassy and not based on anything in particular that Bill may have mentioned to me.  I do read the papers and watch local television newscasts.  It is my understanding that the Rwandans are here at the invitation of and with the agreement of the Congolese Government. They are working together.  Since the rebel groups purport to be fighting the “genocidiers” of the 1990s genocide, the DRC and Rwanda governments are working together to eliminate that problem With the genocidier problem minimized, the rebels will either have to resort to peace or admit that their purpose is other than protecting Tutsis and other DRC residents, i.e., to destabilize the duly elected, democratic government. I am hopeful (and I think all of Congo is hopeful) that this will lead to greater cooperation and a practical solution to the decade old issues between Rwanda and DRC.  Pray for peace and an end to the senseless fighting, murder, rape and mutilations in Eastern Congo. 

 

Until next time….

 

3:09 am pst

Return to Kinshasa

I'm actually embarrassed to say that I've been back in Kinshasa for 5 weeks and have not updated this blog.  I have lots of excuses but I'll just get into the story. Also, I'll break this post into a few so those who finally get to this part can stop if they don't want to read about my more personal issues.

 

The trip from DC was long: Dulles to Atlanta to Brussels to Yaoundé, Cameroon to Kinshasa.  In Atlanta I met Sam, one of Marine contingent who had returned home due to his father's illness. All worked out well on that front, thank God.  Sam graciously helped me with my bags and moral support for the rest of the trip. In January Sam left Kinshasa for his new assignment - Saudi Arabia

 

Brussels has changed terminals for African flights. Now all African flights depart form Terminal T; a convoluted walk and transfer via shuttle bus is required.  The Embassy had arranged for an electric cart and an assistant to help me in Brussels. I first thought it was silly but when I got there, it was much appreciated.  The flight ended up being delayed by about 2 hours. But overall, each of the flights was good, no problems or unpleasantness.

 

I was glad for my delayed return.  By the time I had arrived, schools were on holiday break, many people had already started their holiday travels, so Embassy and diplomatic activities were at a minimum.  I found that I did have to cancel out of a dinner hosted by the European Union the Monday after I returned.  I just did not have the stamina.  But I did attend a Carolling session at the Bristish Ambassador's house and a progressive dinner at the homes of 3 Embassy employees who all live in the same apartment building.  Both were delightful Christmas activities.

 

Since returning, I have been in a slight malaise.  I think it was a combination of post-operation, having spent 2.5 months in the States, and returning to find that nothing had really changed in Kinshasa, except to get worse maybe.  The pot holes are bigger. Because school is out & because of the holidays, there are more in number, older and more aggressive street kids, and traffic is worse (probably because of the pot holes & the street kids).  I found the Residence to be a cocoon.  I rested, wrote emails to family and friends, got caught up on bookkeeping – even started to prepare for taxes.  These are good things but I haven’t felt involved in the Congo.

 

Until now....with that I’ll end this post, except a quick update on my health.

 

No problems with the kidney whatsoever. I had occasional pain, which the surgeon told me was the healing inside.  As for my arm, I can now raise it completely over my head although I have slight pain – really aches – when I do so.  The only time I really notice any problem is when I reach up; reach is still limited.  And, it’s hard to dry the back of my hair – so I’ve kept it cut very short.  I do know how fortunate and blessed I have been throughout this whole experience. 

 

2:08 am pst

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Going Home!!
Today I again had a EMG - electric shocks & lots of needles -- with the specialist at George Washington Medical Center.  The good news is that no nerves are severed or "broken."  As the specialist expected, the nerve was likely stretched during the surgery.  The prognosis is good but slow.  He said I would improved quickly for the first couple months (as I have been), then improvements will stop for a while and then continue very, very slowly.  It will likely be more than 3 months before I'm close to getting full use of my shoulder/arm.  The State Department doctor (who is also a neurologist) said that I may never get 100% use back again, however 90% is likely.  I'm glad I know that.  I can have lots of patience when I have a good understanding of what to expect.  Everything with the kidney is fine; I even have pretty good stamina again. So, I will be heading back to Kinshasa on Tuesday, Dec 16, arriving the evening of Wednesday, Dec 17. 
 
Thank you for all your warm thoughts, good wishes and prayers -- they definitely made a difference.  I know that with all that happened I am very, very blessed.
 
Last week my mom ended up in the hospital due to heart problems.  As I understand it, she missed a couple days of her heart medication.  The doctors have gotten her back on track and say that she is a very healthy 95 year old woman!  She now will have oxygen, which will give her more energy and make breathing easier, and she will have home care.  She still lives by herself in a condo complex for seniors.  Thank you to my siblings and their children and grandchildren who watch over her on a daily basis.  All the women in my family (guys too) are tough!  We are truly blessed.
 
Merry Christmas to all;  Bill & I both wish you all a very joyous 2009.
 
 
 
 
5:15 pm pst

Sunday, December 7, 2008

Delayed return to Congo
All has gone well with the kidney; I was cleared to return to Kinshasa on Dec 9.  However, the neurologist (for my shoulder) wanted me to see a noted specialist at George Washington University Hospital, who suggested I delay my return for 1 week and have another test.  As the State Medical Unit doctor said, he can't cure the shoulder; he can only determine the extent of damage and make an educated estimate of how long before it gets back to normal.  The specialist thinks the nerves (C5, C7 and most notably C6) were stretched during the surgery.  With physical therapy, I do continue to improve each week.  But it is very, very slow.  So, to me, one more week to get a more exact prognoisis is worth it.  If there is an indication of permanent damage (I suspect very, very slight if there is), I'd like to know about it now.  I worry less when I have as much info as possible. 
 
Thank you to all for warm thoughts and prayers.  It made a difference.  I am touched by the contributions made to my "Congo Projects" - the orphans.  I said, I regret that I can give only one kidney for my projects!  :-)
 
I have wonderful friends and family.  I am blessed.  This has been a humbling experience. I am grateful for it.
 
But, now I'm ready & anxious to go home!  To be with Bill & Sydney and all the Embassy & Diplomatic Community Family again. 
 
I will probably write next when my feet are again on Congo soil.
 
Merry Christmas to all...."God bless us, everyone!"
....
9:13 am pst

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

All's Well
A silver lining ... there always is!  I found out that a very dear, old friend of mine -- we worked together first more than 30 years ago and stayed friends, even though we're on opposite sides of the continent -- reads this blog occasionally.  That was gratifying. 
 
The operation went exactly as expected.  No problems...except my right shoulder muscles/nerve became stretched or irritated during the surgery.  The patient is placed on the left side (for right kidney); right arm, I'm told, is stretched over head to keep it out of the way.  My forearm and hand are fine...the right shoulder is weak and the right side of my neck has been very sore.  I've been quite light-headed; I think both because of the pain pills, normal recovery, and the shoulder/neck issue. Although I really have not taken or needed many pain pills since leaving the hospital.
 
The surgeon was very upset when we discovered this -- it was worst at 4 a.m. ET on Nov 5 -- but I did hear the results of the Election fine!  I was awake when this new door in history was opened.  The surgeon immediately called in a neurologist.  I had 2 MRIs (interesting experience); neither showed any type of injury, although the one did confirm that I have arthritis of the spine ("not uncommon for your age." I hear that a lot lately...hummmmm.).  I also had EGM (?) and other tests -- I was stuck with needles and shocked with electricity.  The neurologist (an older doctor told me I'm a "cool dude" for my attitude throughout the 45 minute procedure!)  The result was that I have very minor nerve damage that will come back with physical thearpy
 
I am now taking physical therapy and doing my exercises faithfully and my shoulder is improving slowly.  I'm assured by the surgeon, neurologists, and physical therapist that if I stick to the regime, I should be pretty much back in business by the early part of December. FYI, yesterday I would not have been able to type this much as fast as I'm typing.  (Oh, one side effect may be a decline in grammar & spelling! ;-) 
 
The staples were removed yesterday (Nov 12). As far as the tumor, it was completely contained in the kidney.  The first indications were that is was benign.  However, the pathologist is doing one more test.  There evenidently is a fine line between benign and a certain type of malignancy.  If malignant, it is the mildest form.  We will likely know for sure in the next week.  Either way, it's out of my system  If it is benign, no worries of recurrence and the the growing tumor can no longer threaten kidney function.  If not, well, recurrence is unlikely since it was completely removed. 
 
I have to include 2 other stories (since my shoulder is holding out as I type at 2:20 a.m. and I'm not particularly tired).
1) The neurologists who did my EMG tests is the Iranian doctor who recommended that Richard Queen be released when the 1979 hostage crisis happened. Richard Queen had MS, was released to Switzerland; President Carter sent a plane to pick him up and bring him home to Georgetown Hospital.  The doc also helped other family members of the U.S. Embassy hostages.  What an experience to talk with the man -- certainly took my mind off the electrical jolts. Today he is a wonderful American citizen -- I certainly am glad he's here to tend to me.
 
2)  The Am Embassy Kinshasa Family raised US$250 for flowers for me (via a bake sale hosted by the Community Liaison Officer).  Instead of flowers, they did as I asked and split the $$ between Grace de Dieu Orphanage & StandProud.  And, the Embassy Marine contingent is occasionally playing scoccer with the boys recuperating at the Stand Proud center - amazing what those kids do even in old fashioned. "Forrest Gump" type braces.
 
Odile told me when they delivered $$ & food to GDD, the children were not in good shape. The rising price of food; instability in East Congo, and the worldwide economic situation are having an effect on the orphans.   When I get back, Odile & I will deliver the school supplies my friend's 2nd grade class, and my nieces & nephews (including greats and great-greats - I have a huge family) collected for the orphans.
 
OK...one more update:  Yes, the war in the East is as bad as you read in the paper.  The Embassy team is working feverishly in Kinshasa; the Dept of State is working tirelessly here.  Bill's been busy here by blackberry & in the State Dept when I was feeling well. 
 
Remember (look at map), Kinshasa is 1,000 miles from Goma, where the fighting is.  I'm told by Embassy friends that everyone is more wary (always a good thing wherever you live) but all is pretty much normal in Kinshasa.
 
Bill goes back to Congo today (Nov 13).  My nephew arrives this evening and I have many other sources of support. 
 
It looks like I will be able to go back on Dec 9 (when the Embassy scheduled my next "tentative" flight).  That means I will be back in Kinshasa for the Annual Employees Recognition Day on Dec 12.  YEAH.
 
As I said before, God dealt me absolutely the best hand anyone could get in this situation.  Thank you to all for your warm thoughts, kind gestures, and prayers.  It all makes a difference.
 
Now I'm about at the shoulder's limit -- although still better than I expected -- and I'm tired.  So good night!
Humbly....until next time....
 
 
11:38 pm pst

Friday, October 31, 2008

R&R Update & A Big Surprise
We had a whirlwind R&R doing all the things I listed in the previous email.  Unfortunately the last Nationals home game of the season was rained out; so we now have "tickets" for a game next year.  The Arena Stage plays were fantastic as always (go to www.ArenaStage.org). My family raised more than $2,400 at the ALS Walk in Grand Rapids. You may not know that my sister Ruth died of ALS in 2004 after about a 9 year fight!  I had to complete my annual physical on Oct 16 -- that's where the big surprise came in.  Here's the story:
 
On Thursday - Oct 16, we had quite a surprise.  When I went in for a follow up appointment to complete my annual physical. The doctor noticed something out of normal range in my blood test results. She thought it was something with the liver.  Because we were supposed to leave on the next Monday (Oct 20), she ordered a sonogram that afternoon.  When I finished the sonogram at 4:30 p.m., the Doctor there said there was a mass on my right kidney -- about 2 inches.  She said I needed a CT Scan immediately.  Even that late in the afternoon, they got me scheduled for a CT Scan at 9:45 a.m. Friday (Oct 17).  After the scan, the technician said the Doctor would contact my doctor with the results that afternoon. My doctor was at a conference but she got the message.  Knowing we couldn't do anything but worry over the weekend, Dr. Earle called me on Sunday afternoon.  She told us to delay our travel and come into her office f irst thing on Monday.  In the meantime, she also set up an appointment for us with a noted urologist/surgeon.  We met with him at noon. 

The tumor is well contained. Because it is more than 4 centimeters (actually it's more than 5 cm), it is likely cancer - 60-75% chance.  Even if not, it could cause problems and it could turn cancerous in the future.  So, we are going to remove the kidney on Nov 4.  Here's the schedule:

  • Nov 4 Surgery at INOVA Fair Oaks Hospital in Virginia
  • 3 additional days in hospital until I can eat normal food (not a problem I'm sure), bowels work and pain is controlled
  • 1 week after surgery, check up with Surgeon & doctor; if all is well as expected, Bill will then return to Congo shortly thereafter (his reservations have been changed to Nov 13 -- can change again if needed).
  • for 3 weeks after surgery I may not drive; my nephew Jessen (Nov 13 - 16) and his mom/my sister Sally (Nov 19-25) are coming separately after Bill leaves to tend to me.  In addition, my friend Wanda is here as well as many, many other good friends (including some ex-Kinshasaites who are assigned to DC permanently or temporarily) who have offered their help.
  • for 6 weeks after surgery I cannot travel
  • 6 weeks after surgery I have a check up with surgeon & doctor; if all is expected, I will get a clean bill of health, get my Medical Clearance by the State Department reinstated and go back to Congo before Christmas!

Obviously, I am very lucky to have caught this so early. And, a person can live a long & happy life with one kidney.  It really is: pop out the kidney, recover & return to Kinshasa. 

I have to see the surgeon/doctor again in 6 months; so we will be back for another R&R in April/May 2009 (a few months earlier than originally planned).  After that, if all's well as expected, I'll see my own doctor on an annual basis as normal. 

God is good and has dealt me the best hand possible.  I am in good spirits; my faith is very strong; I'm content and ready.  Bill's nervous but then we all know it's harder to be the caregiver than the patient.

We are now in a short-term apartment (Oakwood Falls Church); I will be here for the duration.  The address is Oakwood Falls Church, 507 Roosevelt Blvd, C315, Falls Church, VA 22044.  No flowers please; if you want to cheer me up, I prefer you send a contribution to the Grace de Dieu Orphanage efforts -- go to www.CongoOrphans.pledgepage.org - donations. Or contribute to Stand Proud (www.StandProud.org), an NGO that does surgeries and rehabilitation for handicapped Congolese children. 

I'm in good hands and very good spirits. I am blessed.  It's still a bit flabbergasting...good health one day; minus a kidney the next. 

Thanks for your thought and prayers. I'll update this again as soon as I can after the surgery.
 
Until then....
 
 
4:16 am pst

Monday, September 22, 2008

Time for R&R
I just re-read my Sept 6 entry; there's really not much else to add. September has been very busy with the welcome receptions for Bill's new section heads.  So I will just leave you with a so long...we leave tomorrow evening for our very busy month in the States.  We're seeing lots of very good friends, enjoying Arena Stage plays, and going to a Nationals baseball game (last home game of the season) as well as visiting family and getting medical check-ups -- and, of course, Bill's conference.
 
Have a great October. Should anything really interesting come up, I'll do an entry "from the road."  Otherwise, I'll be back in late October or early November.
 
Until then....
12:14 am pdt

Saturday, September 6, 2008

This & That
It's been a busy month.  Since February, we have been doing "Section Lunches" on the first Friday of the month; we invite a group of American & Locally Employed Staff (LES) to the Residence for a buffet lunch around the pool.  We usually have had 25-30 people each lunch.  In August we did the General Services Office (motor pool, travel, shipping, procurement, maintenance, facilities, etc.); because it's such a large section, we stretched the lunches over 3 weeks, inviting about 65 people each week.  We had another Section Lunch the last week of August too for a few other sections; our intention was to have invited all the sections before we go on R&R.  The last group also was about 60.  We still have ended up with one more section to go - Public Diplomacy. We plan to have them over the first week of November.   These lunches have been very popular with the employees, especially the LES; who aren't often invited to the Residence.
 
Yesterday, Friday Sept 5, I hosted my second "Spouses' Lunch." New arrivals and "old-timers" got to know each other a bit better.  We had a security briefing by the Assistant Regional Security Officer and his staff.  And, we chatted.  I plan to continue to host these lunches 2x/year; so probably in February or so again.  FYI, neither the Section nor Spouses' lunches are reimbursed by the State Dept (one of the biggest differences between private & public sectors); but they are worth it -- they are a great way to get to know the Embassy Family better and they contribute to good morale.
 
Jendayi Frazer, Assistant Secretary for Africa, visited Aug 31 - Sept 2.  It was, as always, a whirlwind visit. We hosted a senior staff dinner on Sunday, and official breakfast, lunch & dinner on Monday.  From what Bill & Sam (DCM) have told me, it was a productive visit. 
 
The weather is changing; rainy season is beginning.  We have more sun and humidity than in the past 3 months.  It's funny, in dry season it looks like rain almost every day but it never rains.  Nevertheless both seasons have lots of sun.  Rainy season is much hotter than dry season -- dry season is like the perfect June in DC - balmy and very comfortable but too cool (at least for me) to swim.  Rainy season builds up until in March/April then it is like the worst of July/August in DC -- hot and sauna-level humid.  We've already had two soft rains in the early mornings.  But the effect is dramatic; the dust is settling and my feet are not getting as dirty as they did last month. 
 
I finally started Golf lessons.  I've signed up for 10 lessons that I hope to complete before we go on R&R - 2 lessons a week.
 
The new year of the International Women's Club kicked off on Sept 2.  We have excellent partipation, many volunteers and fantastic ideas for activities.  I think it's going to be a great year.  The planning committee decided to go with an interim volunteer board and then to hold elections on schedule in March.  Hanne Dokolo, Norwegian Honorary Consel, and I are co-presidents.  In addition to the normal officers (VP, Treasurer, & Secretary), we also have committee chairs for Hospitality (membership), Activities, Fund Raising, & Welfare.  We have multiple co-chairs for each group. 
 
We will be gone from Sept 23 - Oct 21 for R&R and Bill's African Chief of Missions Conference.  Our R&R is already just as busy, if not more so, than our weeks here.  We going to see 3 Arena Stage plays, a Nationals baseball game, attend PSI's YouthAids Gala, go to Michigan to visit family - we hope to see my niece compete in a swim meet (for Univ of MN) at University of Mi and/or Michigan State, walk in the ALS D'Feet ALS walk in Grand Rapids, and see doctors and the dentist.  We also have to do a little shopping -- principally we  need to send more of Sydney's prescription food, which we cannot order online.  Sydney will stay with some friends, who have become the dogsitters of choice for a number of Embassy families. 
 
Update on my great-niece Kristine who is battling Leukemia; she's in remission. To read her CarePages blog, go to links in the left column of this blog.  My great-nephew Tad is now deployed to the frontlines of Afghanistan.  Please put keep him & all service personnel in your thought & prayers.
 
Grace de Dieu Orphanage - the toilets and showers are finished and working well.  Go to www.flickr.com/photos/congoambassador for lots of photos - before & after - and lots of shots of the children.  Go to www.CongoOrphans.pledgepage.org for more information (see diary).
 
The International Women's Club is planning to help a handicapped center ("Stand Proud" http://standproud.org/) build toilets and showers using the specs we developed for the Grace de Dieu Orphanage.  We also hope to work with and provide support to a Dutch Association that rehabs classrooms and provides the students meals to improve nutrition and attention spans and to encourage attendance.  There is a World Bank/USAID and private effort to expand this program to feed and encourage school attendence by the many, many street kids here in Kinshasa. 
 
Sometimes the need here can be overwhelming -- how to help most effectively is the foremost question.  It is a challenge and it can be very gratifying -- but it never seems like enough.
 
Until next time....
3:16 am pdt

Saturday, August 16, 2008

A startling discovery
Last Thursday, August 14, Odile & I decided to visit the Grace De Dieu Orphans who were relocated during the construction of the toilets and showers to a center in Mont Ngafula, another Kinshasa community (or suburb).  Becky had to check some facts related to a Self-Help grant that was submitted.  Since we don't like to arrive empty handed, we bought a 50kg sack of rice for the children.  Little did we know how important this gesture would be!
 
It took us a while to find the center again; we had a different driver than the previous time we visited.  After a few miscues, we arrived.  The Masina children recognized us immediately.  Some appeared to be having a lesson, a couple others were playing checkers using Fanta & Coke bottle caps as pieces.  One baby, probably about 7 or 8 months, was crawling (on all fours) on the dirt floor.  It always surprises me, but what can we expect, it's the only floor they have.
 
We were stunned. The children all are very skinny and were dressed in very raggy clothes.  Now, to me, the clothes part isn't so important; really, the other children who live in the neighborhood were dressed quite similarly.  But the change in the children's appearance since I last saw them on June 16 was shocking. Many are just plain emaciated. For more on this situation, please go to my diary section on www.CongoOrphans.pledgepage.org.
 
While we were at Mont Ngafula, Sra. V called Becky.  Sra. Victorine had been on "vacation" for a few weeks; we think she went to a farm (or some land) she has not too far outside of Kinshasa.  She frequently has told us that she'd like to make this farm into a training center for the older children in Grace De Dieu. She had returned quite recently but was at the Masina center.  From what we pieced together (see link above), we think she left food for the children but 1) either not enough or 2) certainly not enough for the children & the caretakers.
 
For months now, I've been reading articles about the ghastly effective of rising food prices.  This time, I really saw the effects of it first hand! 
 
Since it was 2 p.m. and there was no evidence of lunch or evening meal preparation, we had to find a local open-air market to buy some food.We bought small local fish (about 30 for 4,000FC or $7), which would be gutted and scaled and then cooked with the heads and tails.  We bought caterpillars, which are a good source of protein, I'm told; they would be cooked with the greens.  The children love them. We bought "red root," this plant's leaves are cooked like spinach.  We bought  sikwanga, a popular manioc product.  To me it doesn't have much flavor but it is very filling and the children like it.  We bought bread, small "french" bread loaves.  For more protein we got the children some peanuts (ground nuts).  And, because it's the right season, we bought oranges (about 2 dozen for about $15.00). 
 
This shopping experience reminded me of our weekly shopping in Bolivia - 25 years ago!  We were suspicious that the price went up when they looked at us, our car and the diplomatic plates. So Becky did the buying; she speaks Lingala and Kilkongo fluently (she was born in Congo). We also recruited several of her Congolese acquaintances -- Becky runs into someone she knows in every remote corner of Kinshasa; she is amazing! Mont Ngafula is one of the absolute poorest areas of Kinshasa. 
 
When we returned to the Center about 30-45 minutes later, the children were all better dressed.  Whenever I peek into the rooms, they look completely barren; I can never figure out where they store the clean, neat clothes that appears when we arrive or when the children dress for school.  Most of the clothes are clearly either "gifts" from charitable organizations, lots of discard US logo t-shirts or things are are re-purchased in the local market. I always wonder if these items come from the "Planet AID" boxes (yellow & blue) scattered around DC and many, many other cities. 
 
The children were all seated quietly on their "school" benches.  We immediately gave them the bread, peanuts and a 1/2 orange each.  The oldest girls -- the 2 deaf sisters who have blue eyes -- went to work cleaning the fish and greens.  One worked on starting a cooking fire; we bought some charcoal too.  The "stove" is a used car wheel (yes, the thing the tire goes on), set upon a wire tripod of sorts. 
 
I was concerned about giving these little ones (1 yr to about 8 years) a small loaf of bread and peanuts; I was worried they end up with a tummy ache or worst.  But Becky & Odile (the mothers in this group) assured me they would be fine.  One of the caretakers said, "that's enough peanuts for now; we'll save them and give the to them later."  However, knowing he and the other caretakers were hungry too (although not in nearly as bad shape as the children), we wanted to make sure the kids got all the food.  The caretakers were able to each have an orange and they would surely participate in the evening meal of fish, rice, greens, manioc, etc. 
 
We spent probably in total around or just over $30 for this one meal for 40 children 7 caretakers.  We know Sra. V receives about $300 from a U.S. charity each month; we know she occasionally receives donations from local parish churches, etc.  We don't know what other source of funds she has.
 
I think all three of us had similar feelings when we left: anger, sadness, fear, frustration, helplessness.  I didn't have a very restful night and Friday a.m. it really hit me, I couldn't stop crying!  I just kept seeing the June pictures of these kids juxtaposed next to what they look like today.  I'm sure they have been on reduce rations for quite some time.
 
Why?  Why does this happen?  There are the macro-economic reasons - price of food - and the human reasons - their relocation, Sra. Victorine's "vacation," her generally poor management skills, and being left in the care of substitute caregivers, who are either paid poorly, paid lated, or not paid at all but still have their own families to feed. 
 
In the CongoOrphans website, I mention meeting with Jatutkik Foundation.  Our long-term plans that include better selection & training of caregivers and better financial and resource management for Sra. V.; relocation of some of the children to other orphanages that have more resources is also a serious consideration -- but those are not our decisions to make. Nevertheless we are going to try to work with Sra V and get her to agree to some significant changes. 
 
For more about this visit www.CongoOrphans.pledgepage.org, select "diary" and then "Linda." 
 
 
 
 
 
 
8:29 am pdt

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Everyday life
Nothing special going on. It's quiet here during the "summer" months.  The Embassy is going through the annual turnover.  Many officers have left -- saying good-bye is hard now that we've gotten to know the people so well.  But they are taking vacation, doing Washington consultations and then moving on to their new Posts.  Our new officers are starting to arrive. The cycle of foreign service life. Later this month and in Sept, I will be organizing a host of welcome receptions for the new division & agency heads. 
 
 I recently learned that Dry Season ends around August 15 (May 15 - August 15 more or less).  I have noticed that already the humidity is on the rise.  We'll start getting rain again in a week or two.  Everything is very dry.  I've learned first hand why in Bible times washing feet was an important ritual.  My feet are always filty from the dust. 
 
I've started making arrangements for our trip to the States (last week of Sept, first 3 weeks in Oct). I've made appointments with doctors & the dentist and arranged to see a couple of Arena Stage plays.  I'm also working on getting tickets for the final National's home game and making arrangements to visit family in Michigan.   Bill has a week long conference in DC.  And, we're planning on spending lots of time at Lake Anna.
 
Work on the new toilets and showers for Grade De Dieu orphanage is progressing.  I'm hopeful the children will be able to move back soon. 
 
As you can see, it's really quiet; not much news.  I've posted additional photos to http://www.flickr.com/photos/15965759@N02 (FLICKR). 
 
Until next time...
 
 
6:22 am pdt

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