This page covers one section of the FAQ. For a list of all topics see the main FAQ page.
Please note that there are representatives of many agencies and
adoption facilitators on the list. This should not in any way
discourage you from asking questions or airing problems with
agencies, but you will want to be conscious that it's possible
that your comments will be read by a person in your agency.
You should also keep the public nature of the list in mind when
deciding what details you wish to post about your family, your
child's life story, travel plans, etc.
If you respond to a list message privately your response must
be within these guidelines. If it isn't, and the list managers
hear about it, your list access may be restricted. This is
because the point of many of our policies is to keep the list a
safe and welcoming place for all. If people who post to the
list receive unsolicited advertisements, flames, attacks, etc.
privately from other list members it can be just as destructive
of that goal as if such things are posted on the list. We
can't and won't interfere in ongoing private conversations, but
we will take seriously any complaints that a post to the list
has received a direct response that is destructive of the sense
of community we seek to maintain on the list.
Also note that the list is absolutely not available for
collecting email addresses for any mass mailing, and any hint
of such activity will get your list access restricted quickly
and decisively.
However, it's easy to make interesting articles available to
other list members, and we encourage you to do so as long as
the article is relevant to the list's topic areas. Just post a
brief note, perhaps a paragraph to give a flavor for what the
item is about, and a link to the online location of the
article or document.
Forwarding messages for any other purpose -- e.g. advocacy,
journalism, research, to let your adoption agency or anyone
else know someone on the list was talking about them, etc. --
requires the original author's explicit permission before
forwarding.
Of course you can also forward any message that came from a
clearly public source and was intended for redistribution (e.g.
a press release, or an online newsletter which may be
redistributed).
To make such a request on the list, use initials or first name
and last initial only (e.g. "I am looking for anyone whose
child was cared for by Maria S. in Guatemala City"). This may
generate a few extra responses but there won't be many, and it
protects the privacy of the others involved.
In order to protect the privacy of others, do not post full
names, addresses, phone numbers, email addresses, or other
personal details of birth or foster families. This includes
not posting your own child's full birth name.
Also please do not post personal information about others
involved in your adoption, unless that information is about an
organization, not an individual, and is readily available from
public sources anyway (e.g. an agency address or phone number).
We strongly recommend that you do not reveal personal
identifying informaiton about yourself (address, phone number,
etc.) on the list as it can be read by anyone. This is a good
guideline for any online venue, not just for this list.
We also recommend that you use caution in posting details of
your child's life story. Many adoptive parents believe or come
to believe that a child's adoption story belongs to the child,
and that the child should be able to decide how and when it is
shared. This must be balanced with your desire as parents to
share what is happening in your adoption or parenting and get
feedback, or to give advice to others based on your own
experiences. People have wide-ranging views about the level of
privacy required in this area, and we simply recommend that you
consider the various issues and follow your own best thinking.
Who reads what I post to the list?
Anyone who wants to. The list has over 2000 members and is
widely read by many people in all kinds of locations and with
various roles in Guatemalan adoption. Most list members never
post a message and so you will not know who they are. In
addition the list's archives are accessible to anyone who
joins. Therefore, despite the sometimes cozy feel of the
group, remember that messages you post are essentially public
and available to anyone who wants to read them, now or in the
future.
What can I write to other list members privately?
In most cases, anything you want -- that is between you and
them, and is not a matter for the list managers. However,
there are some exceptions.
I read a great / interesting / important article on line. Can I
post it to the list?
Not all of it. News stories and other material published in
print or online may not be posted to the list without the
copyright holder's permission, and distribution of almost all
such material is restricted by the person or organization that
published it.
Someone sent me a private email I think would be interesting to list
members. Can I post it to the list?
Only with the original author's explicit permission.
I saw an important / interesting message on another list. Can I
post it to Guatemala-Adopt?
Only with the original author's explicit permission, or if it's
an announcement that is clearly intended for public
distribution (e.g., of an event related to Guatemala and/or
adoption).
I found some good information on the list that I know my friend
could use. Can I email it to them?
Sure -- if it is for their personal use only, is not to be
re-forwarded beyond that person, and is forwarded because they
need the information the message contains.
I'm looking for my child's birthmother / foster family. How can the
list help?
You may find that other families on the list had the same
foster family. If you know your child had a birth sibling
placed for adoption their family may be on the list also. You
are welcome to use the list to search for these connections --
just do so as described below.
How much personal information should I reveal on the list? How
about my child's adoption story?
Think carefully about what you want to reveal in public, and
keep the entirely public nature of the list in mind when
deciding what details you wish to post about your family, your
child's life story, travel plans, etc.