Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships

- Recognizing the Signs -

This page was last updated on Wednesday, 26 February 2014


Abuse, violence, and lying are behaviors chosen by abusive women to cause emotional damage and worry and fear. These women are often promiscuous, selfish, and narcissistic. So they use their moods, rages, and impulses to control people around her and she cannot be satisfied until all others come to admire her. Then these women choose deceit, fury, and assault to get their own way and then they revel in the addicting exhilarating emotional unrest that they have created. In doing that, she presents a false image of herself to conceal her true character; she is addicted to her own personality and feeds on the emotions of others, for she is a narcissist who is in love with herself. So these women will lie, connive, and extort to get their own way.

These women are actors and their jealousy drives these women to unimaginable bounds while treating their partner as possessions to be isolated from friends and family. Moreover, these women will falsely accuse their partners of infidelity while they have affairs. Nearly all of them exhibit erratic mood changes because they are practiced actresses. That is the reason that they can play the play the multiple roles of the terrorist, the tyrant, the fiend, and the victim. Others tell of this their own books, for the term ‘crocodile tears’ entered our lexicon as ‘hypocritical sorrow’ ages ago.

So at some point, she will falsely accuse her spouse or partner of abuse although she is the abuser. This is simply lying by projection. However, the courts still refuse to recognize this established criminal behavior although the legal term is perjury. This is the reason that false allegations are a common feature in divorce proceedings and the courts continue to ignore the problem. By doing so, the courts have become part of the problem and false allegations have become a shrewish woman's weapon of choice. Nevertheless, the matter does not rest there.

The courts have encouraged all kinds of outrageous behaviors making false claims easy to fabricate and hard to refute. All she has to do is to sign a preprinted paper alleging abuse without affirming the truth of her allegations with no penalty goes with lying. This is why the officials do not allow witnesses speak for falsely accused men. They avoid them. Instead they go in the cover of night, as would a crook, to issue secret restraining orders that an impartial tribunal would not support. So this is irrefutable evidence that courts encourage false allegations of abuse. Any issue at law that is bogus is a lie. Nevertheless, many courts do nothing about it and so the lies continue without change. It is as if they came from a prepared script.

The problem is that when others believe her, they join in with more abuse. Now the frustrated husband or partner finds himself a victim of undeserved malice, defamation, and abuse. So when she does not show up at court, it is his fault and not a sign of her guilt. Justice is never blind to assigning blame to men but always appears blind to the truth. Now it is the courts way and so the abuse continues in an unending parade of broken promises, false hopes, and lies.

These women crave the sadistic erotic pleasure that comes from destroying their husband. So they create a climate of terror. Others call this sensation ‘walking on pins and needles’ because these women cannot be satisfied. This is the reason that she does not change. She enjoys hurting others and she is addicted to the sexual release that often follows her moods. These women have no limits and so their outrageous behavior escalates to unbelievable levels but still, no one believes the victim. While DNA testing might disprove abuse, many courts still refuse to require testing. This only bolsters her belief that she remains in control and that is exactly what she wants.

This is one reason that some women fake or inflict injuries on themselves, or use an accomplice, a relative or new lover, to frame her husband. The most common behaviors are pressing false criminal charges, stealing or destroying property, snatching children, and engaging in bad faith litigation. This is why the courts must treat this women with unrelenting resolve for she is the criminal and not her husband.

Once your spouse or companion has chosen abuse, end the relationship promptly and irrevocably before she accuses others of her of own behavior. In psychology, the students call this phenomenon projection. So get a restraining order, change the locks and sue in civil court. If the assailant is your spouse, file for divorce and use a recording device to prove your claim. Most have a time/date stamp that is based on an atomic clock maintained by the National Institute of Standards and Technology. Some recording devices have embedded frame counters to discourage frame editing and other tampering.

Abusive women are often narcissistic and promiscuous and they use their moods and impulses to control those around her. So she must achieve domination over them. Then they revel in the addicting exhilarating emotional unrest that they have created. Insidiously, they often present a personable public image to conceal their true character that includes conniving and extortion.

Many steal or destroy their partner's possessions and they view others as rivals. So they treat their partners as possessions and strive to isolate them from friends and family. They falsely accuse their partners of abuse and infidelity while they have affairs. That is why false allegations are a common in divorce proceedings and the courts ignore the problem. By ignoring the problem, the courts have become part of the problem and falsity has become the woman's weapon of choice.

Apart from the monetary and property gains, domestic violence is easy to fabricate and hard to refute. Moreover, these women crave the sadistic pleasure that comes from destroying their husband or partner. Some people call this sensation ‘walking on pins and needles’. These women will fake or inflict injuries on themselves or use an accomplice to frame her partner or husband. The most common behaviors are pressing false criminal charges, stealing or destroying property, snatching children, and engaging in bad faith litigation. That is the time to discard this shrew for that is truly what she is.

Those who have been these abusive relationships often experience bewilderment, fear or shame. They have tried everything and nothing works. These people have found themselves not knowing what will happen next, riding on an emotional roller coaster that they cannot escape. Most are sad, depressed, humiliated, and just plain exhausted. Many have lost everything they had and are worried about their future. However, these women have no limits and so their selfish and outrageous behavior escalates to unbelievable levels; as a result, no one believes the victim.

When faced with the breakup of a relationship, especially a marriage, some women become vindictive, and abusive women become very dangerous. When others (friends, relatives, police, attorneys, and judges) believe her, they join in, and the frustrated husband or partner finds himself a victim of undeserved hatred, defamation, and abuse.  Justice is never blind to assigning blame to men but it is always blind to the truth. This time it is not her way or no-way, it their way or no-way and so the abuse continues in an unending parade of broken promises and false hopes. Once your spouse or companion has chosen abuse, get an injunction, end the relationship, and if married, file for divorce.

In divorce, a husband must treat his abusive wife with unrelenting resolve because she will do anything to get her own way. That is why husbands must not accept any plea for reconciliation because it only bolsters her belief that she remains in control and that is exactly what she wants. Meanwhile, the clock ticks without hesitation while she stages erratic mood changes and feigns illnesses and injuries. So she becomes the terrorist, the tyrant, and the victim by spreading her spurious lies.

The courts must realize that many women derive pleasure by destroying their husbands through extended litigation. It is a perversion where a person seeks gratification by inflicting cruelty and mental anguish on others. Punishing men for the transgressions of guilty women is wrong and that courts must abolish practice. These women chose to lie and they choose to be violent because they are addicted to inflicting abuse on others. This is why the mandatory arrest policies are a plague on society because they only add more to the harm.

These women chose to be violent and they chose to lie and nothing can change the evidence that some women are committed to abusing others. So the police are arresting men for what these women do and DNA testing has proved that. Punishing men for the transgressions of guilty women is wrong and the courts must abolish this practice. Moreover, it should not take years to decide an issue unless the court is corrupt. Stalling and the failure to appear is also proof of guilt. So once your spouse has chosen abuse, end the relationship promptly and irrevocably. Get a restraining order, change the locks and evict the bullying shrew.

Edward Steven Nunes


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Wednesday February 26, 2014