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Can you find Meaning in your life?
The simple answer is, "Yes, you can."  The harder question is, "Can you do
the work required to find your answer?"

When I was a young boy, I often wondered, "why am I here
?  What is my purpose?"  There seemed to be no answer.  The fact is, there were too
many answers.  Are we here for our parents, our siblings, our friends,
our spiritual growth, our neighbors, our community, our world?

Perhaps the answer is that we're here for all those reasons.  Consider
this: No one is alone in this world.  Not one single person on this earth
has been raised without touching the life of another in some way. No
one has been raised in a vacuum.  Even before you were born, you had an
impact on the life of your mother.

Every action has a consequence, or perhaps a more friendly term would
be, a reaction or a result.  Your mother's pregnancy resulted in your
birth - a truly blessed event.  Every birth is an opportunity for God to
express His Love.  So your birth was blessed by God, even though you may
not see it or feel it.

The first hurdle we must overcome is understanding that there is a
reason for our existence.  You were born, you are an expression of God's
Love, so there must be a purpose for you to be alive.  If you've read this
far, you must have questions about your purpose or the meaning of your
existence.  Commit yourself now to begin the search for the answers you
can find.  I will help as much as possible by giving you a road map to show
you the path to finding what is true for you and your life.

Step One: Commit to the quest.
To make the journey in ernest, it cannot be a part time endeavor.  You must be willing to spend a
significant amount of time connecting to God.  Every day you must set aside time to open yourself
to God through prayer or meditation.  Find a quiet place without distractions and give time to your
thoughts to focus on God and your relationship with Him.

Step Two: Begin with a Thank You.
The first thing I do when I pray is let God know how much I appreciate His Love and Grace.  This is
so important, I cannot stress it enough.  It is important because it not only lets God know that you
are grateful, but it keeps you in the habit of remembering your blessings.  It prevents you from taking things for granted. Every time you acknowledge the things for which you are grateful, you
must consciously bring those things to mind.  In doing so, you will find yourself realizing how much
worse things could be for you and how unfortunate the people are who do not have what you have.

Step Three: Let your mind wander.
If you begin your prayer or meditation with a thank you, your mind will usually wander a bit as you
think about the things for which you are grateful and the things that could be worse in your life.
Don't fight it.  Let your mind do the work.  Allow your subconscious to follow it's natural course.
This will usually lead you to the areas in your life where you need to focus on change.  Sometimes
it's the manner in which we treat others, sometimes in the way we treat ourselves.  Whatever path
your mind takes, is usually where you can do the most good to improve your life and find your true
purpose.  Some believe that our thoughts can be nudged in the right direction by our guardian
angels, while others believe it is our own higher selves leading us.  Whatever your belief, the process works and it will get you there in time.

Step Four: Be patient.
This is not an overnight solution.  Some even say that the search for meaning is a lifelong journey.
I agree that it is, but you can begin to get a handle on the direction of your life by working on the
things that are keeping you from your path.  The only way to do this is through constant prayer or
meditation.  For some, in the beginning, it will feel like you're not getting anywhere.  This is not a
problem nor is it unusual.  You cannot begin to find direction until you've eliminated most of the
distractions.  This takes time.  You will need to pray or meditate often, give thanks, explore your
subconscious and discover the areas that need improvement.  After that, you must work to improve those areas.  Once you've made enough progress in your personal growth, you will be ready to find
your intented direction.  People often ask, "How will I know when I've made enough progress?"  The
answer is that you probably won't realize it right away.  But when you're ready, you will begin to
move in the right direction automatically.  It won't be until you're on the right path, that you will
be able to look back and see how you got there.

An example:
Let's say you are the type of person who has a short fuse.  You can be the nicest person around, but
when crossed, you go off like a firecracker.  You will find, through constant prayer or meditation,
that you are becoming more thankful for other people in your life and realizing that your temper
may be affecting them in a negative way.  You will soon find yourself making an effort to change
this behavior because, on a deeply spiritual level, you appreciate other people more.  How often
do you get angry with someone when you're in the middle of appreciating them?  Never!  When you
were in the process of saying a sincere Thank You to someone, did you feel like cracking them in
the head?  Of course not!  By incorporating your appreciation for people in general into your daily life, your anger and hot temper just naturally subside.  It's not even a process you have to think consciously through, it just occurs as a natural result of appreciating what God has given you in
your life.

If you are so inclined, it may be helpful to keep a simple journal.  Start today and write down the
major events of the day and how you felt about them.  Be honest and don't write what you think you
should have felt, write what you actually felt as the events were occurring.  You can do this once
a week, once a month, once a year or every day if you like.  The important thing is to write how you truly feel about things.  As you continue to pray or meditate and your life begins to change course,
or you discover that you're already right on course, you will usually begin to feel differently
about things than you did before.

After two or three months of constant contact with God, make a new entry into your journal for
the day and then compare it to the first entry you ever made at the beginning of your journey.
You now have a record of your progress regarding the manner in which you see yourself handling
situations.  Some people are surprised to see their first entry because the thoughts and feelings that they wrote on that day have become so different and so foreign to them by the end of their
first 60 or 90 days.

And So It Begins:
Once you have found your way back to your intended path, continue your praise of God and your
prayers or meditation to keep yourself from again straying.  It will also help you to find greater
strength when you are challenged by life's adversities and acceptance of the struggles we must
all face to grow.  Have faith in your path and you will find the meaning for your life. 

May God Bless You Every Day!