Man's evolution from a club-wielding moron to a high-tech cybernaut is driven entirely by his unquenchable need for YOU-KNOW-WHAT. Internet technology has been developed to help us in checking out and meeting literally millions of females around the world with an efficiency that is quite frankly astounding. And we men have responded enthusiastically to this cornucopia of possibilities. Studies have shown that up to 90% of internet traffic at any given time is sex-related. Sex sites are multiplying daily, there are thousands of sites where free pictures and videos of beautiful, young, nubile females can be viewed in every imaginable expression of sexuality. It's fun, it's great, but you want more.
You want a real woman to have sex with. And what better place to meet one than on the internet. Hundreds of "romance" sites promise you the ability to zero in on the one babe who makes it all happen for you.
Sounds almost too good to be true. . . and unfortunately, the web hasn't lived up to its potential. You are in for tremendous disappointment if you believe the hype and spam that streams from the romance sites.
This Cyber-dating Guide for Men will increase your success rate, and it will give you proven techniques for maximizing your effectiveness in your cyber-cruise for hot babes.
First, let me tell you a little bit about myself. My name is Rick, and I'm a veteran cyber-romantic. I've been at this game for as long as it has been around. I started with Bulletin Boards back before the web even existed. I've learned the things that don't work, so you can avoid the pitfalls that I've encountered.
But more importantly, I've found out what does work, and you can learn my strategies for success.
Why not spend a few minutes reading my story? I won't guarantee a date with a supermodel, but I can guarantee you will save hours and hours of wasted time, and I will give you tools to beat the competition.
That's right, the competition. you can't see them, you sit here plunking away at the keyboard thinking you're all alone in cyberspace. But that incredible efficiency I mentioned works for everybody else too. You have to find an edge.
Fact: The ratio of male to female at personals, dating, and romance sites is at least Five-to-One! Check these Stats!
You must have the facts to get the edge you need to beat these odds. Why are the odds in cyberspace so much worse than the real world?
Advantage: You need Rick's Dating Guide tips just to stay even.
Disadvantage: It's always a seller's market, even in cyberspace, and women have always known it. We have to turn this around.
Strategy and Tactics:
Start with the shotgun approach.
You will set up search criteria to include almost any female. This is not a time to be picky, you can do that later. The point is, that in this seller's market only about 5% of the women you contact will ever respond to your initial message. You can't waste time searching for the perfect woman until you have found a group who are at least slightly interested..
Your personal profice exists for one purpose, and one purpose only. Your profile is there to refer women to it once you have already found them. You will almost never get a woman who directly responds to your profile. Women are the sellers, you are the buyer - remember? Isn't it funny how women love to shop - except to find men.
As a test, I have set up profiles with pictures of male models who don't look too gay, with a description to fit every woman's dream man. Sensitive . . . wealthy . . .caring . . . romantic . . . wealthy . . .considerate . . . vulnerable . . . good looking, but not gay . . . wealthy . . . And the results? Zero. The "perfect man" that women claim they are looking for always strikes out. Why???? Women don't have to initiate the communication, they have guys hounding them constantly. Despite all the feminist baloney, a woman initiating sex is defined as a whore in our culture. So you have to overcome this disadvantage using mass mailings. Once I learn the keystrokes and the site navigation, I have been able to
Fact: Cyberspace is right-brain
Cyberspace is warped by the gravitational presence of Mars, giving men a huge TECHNICAL advantage over women which is reflected in the ratio of male-to-female internet activity. It works for us, it works against us. We have to learn how to take advantage of the right-brain nature of cyberspace, and at the same time, to turn the disadvantages around to work for us too.
Advantage: Cybergals can be highly intelligent. And contrary to the stereotypes about bimbos, intelligence is associated with a high sex drive in females. You will also find a high proportion of professional women. My first cyber-affair was with a doctor. The angle I used to set up our second meeting (which turned into a marathon sex orgy) was to help set up her new home computer. Afterwards she let on that it was all a setup to get me to her place for a SUPER-HUMP-A-THON!!
Disadvantage: Cybergals are smart, but tend to be nerdy, just like most cyberdudes. Let's face it, the knockouts don't need to advertise on the web to get offers. You are going to find that a lot of women at the romance sites are "slightly" overweight, plain-looking, or downright weird. But they're smart, and many of them actually like sex, but they are terrified of it, which is why they like the safety of the web. Be prepared for endless opening moves as they try to psyche you out and verify that you're not a psychopath. With all the psychos running around the web, can you blame them?
Strategy and Tactics: You have to appeal to their intelligence. Flexing your muscles doesn't work on the web. Neither does bar-room repartee. Don't be afraid to show a little creativity, women really appreciate that you are trying. Beg, borrow, and steal whatever wit and humor you can muster. You will want to set up several slightly different personal profiles on the dating service sites, to test which approach works best for you, but the overall strategy applies to the whole enterprise. Keep it brainy, witty, and literate. Use your spell-checker every time. Nothing says DUMB more than a bunch of misspelled words. My affair with the doctor didn't happen until after weeks and weeks of emailing. I would use the web's tremendous resources to research the topics she would bring up, so I could respond intelligently.
Now we have the lay-of-the-land and a couple of basic strategies. Let's put them together with some practical tactics for implementing an efficient cyber-search and the follow-up to the nibbles you will get.
Strategy and Tactics. Fact of life: women use checklists to eliminate unsuitable suitors. You want to eliminate reasons for women to reject you, and you want to open up your search criteria. So - you describe yourself as a "professional", you like everything, you have lots of hobbies and interests, you PREFER NOT TO ANSWER questions that can get you in trouble, and you have NO PREFERENCE for many characteristics for the females you want to meet. If you think this is about finding that One Perfect Woman, you are wasting your time. You will search for eons and find the perfect one, and SHE WILL NOT RESPOND! Don't set yourself up for failure. These sites are set up for the "rifle approach", and that's the way most women are thinking, but you have to beat the system.
Your profile is the bait. Make your bait something that almost anybody will take. If you need to tailor your approach, there's a better way.
Get a photo that shows YOU with a KID or a DOG. Trust me. I have had several women write me and tell me something like "Your profile sounds kind of phony, but that picture of you with your (niece, dog, Santa costume, whatever) just melted me " . . . BINGO!
Most of your responses are going to be along the lines of "tell me more". The fish are nibbling on the bait, but it isn't time to reel them in yet, they'll "spit the hook". You have to tease them, keep them interested, keep an air of friendly mystery going. Most women are looking for reasons to reject you, they are in a big hurry to find Mr. Perfect, they have that checklist, and they want to get all their items checked off. For example, they want to know that
Keep the communications friendly, but gently resist the relentless questioning, and the temptation to spill your guts with your life story in order to just shut her up for a ten seconds. You initial communications shouldn't be run like an AA meeting. You are not obligated to divulge things that are none of her business. After all, she is still a stranger. I am frankly amazed at how rude American women can be, but that's because they have been in such a superior bargaining position for so long they have forgotten basic etiquette. You can help her by politely changing the subject, by keeping an amused air of nonchalance, not acting like you are hiding something horrible, and by gently steering the conversation toward finding things you have in common. Remember, she's in a hurry to find Mr. Perfect, and forgive her rudeness.
The looky-loos won't respond after the first time, because they are looking for a reason not to. Amazing what lengths some women will go for validation of their world-view that all men are worthless horrible creatures. But if you get a second and third response, you know you're dealing with some potential. This game takes a lot of patience. A lot.
Why? Because nothing kills a budding relationship like the telephone. It destroys the mystery. People form strong mental images from hearing a voice, and most of us have no idea how bad our voices sound on the phone. You want to be in control of your image at all times. Unless you know you have a great phone voice - avoid the telephone - it really works against image control!
You must get the woman to invest enough time in you to be able to gloss over the imperfections that would cause her to reject you without even thinking about it if she saw you in a crowd. That's right - without even thinking - because rejection, the natural response of women, is triggered by the senses:
You must set the hook - develop the mental image - using the intellect. This can take several weeks of effort, but you have to do it. I guarantee you that if you give in and call her, or even worse, meet her after the first email, you will never hear from her again. Why? It's the blind-date syndrome. She is forming a mental image (intellect), and the earlier in the game that this image is destroyed by the "reality" of hearing your voice or seeing you (senses) , the easier it is for this disconnect to cause her to respond in the natural way - by running. The more time she invests in learning about you from the neutral context of email, the easier it will be for her to slide from her mental image to a new one, one that you have helped her create.
Cyberdating is a lot of work, but once I learned these basics and applied them to my search I got a much better response rate. I've corresponded with many women simultaneously, and gone through dry spells when all of them stopped writing at once. The action is better during the winter months, in summer they seem to find other things to do. I've had communications with some interesting women, and I've learned a lot.
Unfortunately, I finally got tired of the constant rejection, and especially the no-shows who stiffed me time after time. I understand how frightening it must be for a woman to go out and meet a stranger, but they could have said no at any time. It really felt lousy getting stiffed so much, so I finally quit.
Well, good luck, and if you find as I did that cyberdating just is not working out, do what I do and visit one of thousands of great sex sites all over the web. With all the money you don't spend on real "dates", you can afford to rent a good "HO" who will take care of you a lot better and a lot cheaper than those uptight bitches who don't have the guts to show up!
Recently I joined a website for people who want to have sex. I found some interesting facts. First, understand that this site ensures complete anonymity. Women don't need to fear being labeled a "Scarlet Woman". Here are the stats:
Put another way, these stats show that the number of females who actively want sex is about the same as the number of gay guys in the general population - about 10%. And half of them are lesbians or bi.
You're going to need help. So let's
get started!