[narcissism, vanity, exhibitionism, ambition, vanity, vanity, vanity]

1.8.09

RIP, Scott Wesley Buchholz Sanchez

RIP, Scott Wesley Buchholz Sanchez, murdered by his mother, who was suffering from postpartum depression, schizophrenia, and the chaos of being partnered with someone also suffering from schizophrenia. In the weeks after giving birth, it seems she succumbed to pressure to breastfeed, which meant going off her meds.

I doubt Sanchez's mother was a "killer mom," though this is the media meme. In fact she sounds like a mother who really wanted to do the right thing for her baby. She was under a lot of pressure, due to circumstances and illness. She may have been overly trusting, or confused, or desperate. And she got some bad advice.

Breastfeeding might be the right choice for some mothers and babies, depending on the mother, the baby, and the circumstances. But it is not the only way to feed a baby. I don't think I'm going too far out on a limb to suggest that it was not the right choice for Otty and Scott Sanchez.

One line from the article really stuck out: "When in doubt, many [doctors] are reluctant to prescribe drugs, especially ones considered optional, like antidepressants, to pregnant or nursing women."

This woman suffered from psychosis! How about formula-feeding while keeping her on her meds?

Substitute "chemotherapy" for "antidepressants" in that quote and there's the crux of the problem. Since when is treatment for mental illness optional?

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6.5.09

RIP, Marilyn French

She was 79.

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21.1.09

Bye, Ellen

It wasn't so much that she was the life of the party (though she was) but that, when you were with her, life was the party.

(sigh)

RIP, Ellen Tinsman, writer, editor, activist, friend.

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12.1.09

Bye, Clio

My friend and former classmate Clio Chafee is gone.

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RIP, Inger Christensen

She was 73.


early fall exists; aftertaste, afterthought;
seclusion and angels exist;
widows and elk exist; every
detail exists; memory, memory's light;
afterglow exists; oaks, elms,
junipers, sameness, loneliness exist;
eider ducks, spiders, and vinegar
exist, and the future, the future



-- from Alphabet

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13.9.08

Another One Gone

Suicide, noose. RIP, David Foster Wallace .

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20.7.08

RIP, Rocco Carbone

The Italian novelist Rocco Carbone died three nights ago in an accident in Rome.

I didn't know him well -- we'd only just met -- but a connection was there. I'll miss the wonderful friendship we'd only just started, and the books he didn't live to write.

A tribute by Paola Caridi. La repubblica. Corriere della sera. Wikipedia.

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8.7.08

RIP, Tom Disch

Gone, suicide, handgun.

"Because of his intellectual audacity, the chillingly distanced mannerism of his narrative art, the austerity of the pleasures he affords, and the fine cruelty of his wit, [Disch] has been perhaps the most respected, least trusted, most envied and least read of all modern first-rank sf writers." -- 1993 Encyclopedia of Science Fiction

NYT
Wikipedia
His blog. The despair is all there, and so obvious now, hindsight being what it is.

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