The Hailstorm & the Turtle
   




Hendrix divides us up as to how we use our energy. We basically conserve it by drawing it into ourselves or we explode it outwards toward our partner and the world. These differences become even more pronounced when we feel hurt, frustrated, or angry. He names the conservers "Minimizers" and the exploders "Maximizers". Usually in any couple there will be one of each. Here are some of their characteristics. Which one are you?

 MINIMIZER (Turtle)

 MAXIMIZER (Hailstorm)
 Implodes feeling inward  Explodes feelings outward
 Diminishes feelings  Exaggerates feelings
 Denies dependency needs  Depends upon others
 Denies needs  Exaggerates needs
 Shares little of inner world  Is (compulsively) open
 Excludes others from private space  Brings others into private space
 Withholds feelings and thoughts  Is clinging and over-giving
  Has rigid self-boundaries  Has diffuse self-boundaries
 Is inner-directed  Is outer-directed
 Seeks council from self  Seeks council from others
 Thinks mainly about self  Focuses on others
 Acts and thinks compulsively  Acts and thinks impulsively
 Tries to dominate others  Is submissive and manipulative
 Tends to be passive-aggressive  Alternates between aggressive & passive