The Couple's Journey
(Adapted from the work of Susan Campbell)

 

Stage I: Symbiosis:

Boundaries Collapse & Lovers (or Mother & Infant) Fuse. Love Addiction; Co-Dependence. Jungian: Oceanic Feelings. "In love" is not love.

 

Stage II: Power Struggle:

Boundaries are Back & Competition Begins (Terrible two's in infancy). Counter-Dependence. Rules & Roles. Jungian: Fires of Separation. "No!"

 

Stage III: Stagnation:

Owning Power & Self-actualization. (Owning of projections & woundedness) Independence. Parallel Relationship. Jungian: Cooling Waters of Coagulation. "I am!"

 

Stage IV: Co-Creation:

Highest level of Intimacy. Friendship & Partnership. (Courage & Risk). InterDependence. Jungian: Conjunction--Polarity. "We!"

 

Couples who reach Stage IV: Co-Creation, have given up their illusions; such as, "You're gonna save me from death!" They realize that conflict is here to stay, they have realistic expectations and they appreciate (in both meanings of the word) their differences.

 

In this stage they share:

 Intellectuality  Recreation  Work
 Emotionality  Physicality  Conflict
 Spirituality  Aesthetics  Crises
 Creativity  Commitment  Communication