Dr. Goode                                           Dr Finkelstein                                                                                                                        Gina disappointed in her colleagues

  IS THIS YOU?   (Is therapy for me??)                                
                                                                                                                   
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I have trouble making decisions. I obsess over whether I said and did the right thing. I often feel like crying. My moods are unpredictable. I don't like myself but I don't know how to change. I feel worried, guilty or discouraged. My relationships feel frustrating and unsatisfying. I need everyone's approval. I rely on others too much. I don't think people listen when I speak. It seems like people don't value my opinions. I feel that life is passing me by. I have a hard time accepting a compliment. People give me compliments to make me feel better. I have a hard time expressing my thoughts and feelings. Saying "No" is difficult for me. I think people view me negatively. I have a difficult time asking for what I want. I have a hard time knowing what I want. I would rather please or be nice to people than upset them. I feel lonely and isolated. I imagine those I love will leave me. I procrastinate or avoid things I must get done. { You really can scroll to the bottom } I avoid relationships because I fear rejection. I'm so fearful of getting hurt in a relationship that I run away     before it gets started. I don't stand up for myself because I fear retaliation. I'm controlled by my fears. I ruminate about bad things that could happen in the future. I can't stop thinking that life is unfair. I don't deserve the good things that come my way. All the "family" guys are taken. I buy my wedding dress on the first date. I always end up with the wrong guy. Girls don't like me because I'm not funny. I don't know why girls decline a second date with me. Everyday routine tasks are boring,  so the mail sits in piles,           and the room remains a disorganized mess.                                                                           . When I read, I frequently drift off the material and I have to       re-read it. I keep saying that I’ll do it later. I do things more slowly than most people. Its hard to finish the final details of a project. I make careless mistakes. I'm easily distracted. I talk too much. My mind wanders off a topic being discussed so I miss parts       of what is being said. My memory is awful. I have a hard time waiting my turn in line. I'm more often than not, late. I jump from one topic or task to another and then back. I'm easily bored. Its hard to stay quietly seated in a meeting. I interrupt others alot. I finish other people's sentences. I have difficulty concentrating. I am soooo disorganized. I'm distracted by background noise. I space out alot. I think I have ADHD. I know I have ADHD.

I want a permanent relationship but it doesn't happen. I feel bored or empty when I'm not in a relationship. I would like to be with my partner all the time. I am fearful my partner will leave me. I get jealous easily although my partner has never cheated on me. If I can't go out with my partner, I'd rather not go out at        all. I can't stand being alone. I'm tense in any group setting. I don't have many friends. Nobody knows me very well. I have a spending problem. My spouse thinks I have a spending problem. My spouse has no regard for money. I'm having an affair. I want to have an affair. My spouse if having an affair and its certainly not with        me. I'm frightened of my husband.     I'm frightened of my wife. My spouse has a need to control everything. My kids have a problem with me. I want a child but my spouse doesn't. My spouse wants a child but I don't. I can't set limits and my kids are out of control. I can't decide whether to stay or leave my marriage. My worries distract me from play. I'm a perfectionist and its driving me crazy. I'm a perfectionist and can't make a decision. I tend to think of things in black and white. I need everything to be "just so".                                               I feel angry most of the time.                Any change upsets me. I have to nail down future plans or I can't proceed. If I don't know what the future holds, I'm  very anxious. I'm the only one in my family holding things together. My friends would be shocked to find out I'm a wreck          inside. People say I have everything but I don't feel happy. My parents are suffocating me. I don't think my parents know me. I don't think my parents love me. My parents want me to check in all the time and I do. I work for my father and can't leave. I'm not as successful as I want to be. I feel as though I entered the wrong career. { Its really OK to go to the other pages at this point } Its hard for me to stop working once I start. The only time I feel OK is at work. I can't seem to delegate tasks. I try to make things turn out differently but the outcome      remains the same. I have certain attributes that are just permanent                      weaknesses. I don't excel at anything so why bother. I don't feel confident. I don't feel competent. I'm not competent. I hate my job. I hate my boss. I hate my life. I probably need a life coach. I feel helpless and hopeless.

                                                                                                                                                                                                               

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