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by Mr. Andrews
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by Mr. Andrews
This question has bothered me for a very long time. Some women seem to seek out and attach themselves to bad men. Men who dominate and mistreat them. They do it over and over again, and never seem to learn. Why?
I have created a hypothesis. It goes back into primitive times. I think there can be a predisposition to choose these men based on a wired-in-the-brain survival mode.
In very early human history there could have been an advantage for such a choice. Such men would tend to be the dominant males. They would be powerful both in body and in will. The female, being small and weak would have his protection. No one would dare hurt her. Because of his power, he was probably a good hunter-provider. The female, in order to maintain this survival advantage only had to submit to the will of her very dominating mate. And that included him having many other mates! A fairly good deal in a very dangerous time!
Additionally, her children would also likely be strong and good survivors too.
If I am correct in this hypothesis, then some women may still operate from this wired-in perspective. It could be instinctive!
But society gives modern women many expectations beyond simply surviving. And therein is the rub. If she attaches to one of these male types, then as she pushes for other goals and for more freedom, he reacts and attempts to dominate her, and mistreats her.
The modern woman needs to learn a modern way of doing things. She needs to overcome that instinct! That can only be done by recognizing the pattern, and overriding it with the set of moderm memes. (A meme is a learned way of thinking about something or of doing something.)
(Read Stages of Human Male Development for the male version of this animal-like instinct.)
Russ Andrews