How do you come across to other people?

How do YOU Come Across to Other People?

Most of us are concerned about what other people think about us. We hope they will think we are worthwhile to know; that we are a quality person. They usually don't tell us. If we are self-centered and never think about how other people view us, then we can go through life making all kinds of mistakes in our relationships. When things go wrong, we are clueless as to why.

We can do a little introspection. That means looking at ones self as if looking through someone else's eyes. You have to do this HONESTLY!

If you do the following things, people will think highly of you. The people you should want to attract will think some version of: “She is a classy girl, a quality girl!” I'd like to be her friend. (Applies to boys too - just change the gender words.)

Get in the habit of this sort of honest introspection. Apply it to yourself. You will become better because of it! Slowly and carefully read each of the lines in the table below. Ask yourself if each line is logical and reasonable.

If you:

What might quality people think?

Go out of your way to be helpful.

“She is so helpful. I am glad she is my friend.”

Respect the needs of other people.

“She understand me and respects me.”

Are kind to others.

“She won’t hurt me.”

Try your best in everything you do?

“Wow! She really has her act together. I want to be as capable as she is.”

Are a genuine friend. (Not just a "yes" buddy!)

“She is to be treasured!”

If you do the following things, people will think poorly of you. The people you should want to attract will think some version of: “I don’t want her as a friend!”

If you are:

What might quality people think?

Complaining all the time.

She is so negative! She is pulling me down by making me negative too!

Putting down other people.

I wonder what she says to other people about me? Do I really want her as a friend? Can I trust her?

Making excuses all the time.

Why doesn’t she get her act together?

Saying mean things to other people

Is she going to attack me next?

When it comes to people, we attract persons who are like ourselves. Most people want to have friends who are quality people. The way to attract quality people is to be a quality person.
Do you come across as a quality person?

With my BEST wishes for you,

Mr. Andrews

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As of 2 Sep '03

If you:	What might quality people think?
Go out of your way to be helpful.	“She is so helpful. I am glad she is my friend.”
Respect the needs of other people.	“She understand me and respects me.”
Are kind to others.	“She won’t hurt me.”
Try your best in everything you do?	“Wow! She really has her act together. I want to be as capable as she is.”
Are a genuine friend. (Not just a "yes" buddy!)	“She is to be treasured!”

If you are:	What might quality people think?
Complaining all the time.	She is so negative! She is pulling me down by making me negative too!
Putting down other people.	I wonder what she says to other people about me? Do I really want her as a friend? Can I trust her?
Making excuses all the time.	Why doesn’t she get her act together?
Saying mean things to other people	Is she going to attack me next?

If you:

What might quality people think?

If you are:

What might quality people think?

Do you come across as a quality person?