- Ricky's Slide
- A Different and Better
- Lesson Plan
- (Time estimate: TBD
- Extend the last lesson (What is a real
Friend?) into the scenario of helping Ricky.
- Introduce how to overcome self-defense when
trying to help someone.
- If you have not already done so, print
Ricky's Slide, Act 3. A Different and Better
- - - - ricky5.htm
- - - ricky5.rtf
- Make 7 copies. Be sure the three readers get
them well before class to have time to practice.
Before class be sure to clear the front of the
room to provide as wide a stage as possible.
You might know someone like Ricky, or some day you
may meet one like him. How should you react?
Do the reading.
After the reading, have readers stay in place
ready to reread part upon the request of the teacher.
- When we are in a situation where a friend is
having problems, we may not know what to do. We may not know why
they do what they do, or why they say what they say. We may wonder
how the other person might react if we try to help them. We are
going to think about these questions.
Why did Ricky say, "Nah. And besides, like
... I dont want kids to think Im a nerd ... ya know ...
or a teachers pet!" Call on people.
Answer: To make himself feel better
about himself by giving himself a "reason" for not
Why didn't Ricky call Ruth a "Teacher's pet"
this time? Call on people.
- Answer: Because Ruth defused the situation.
She didn't start arguing with him. Instead she ACKNOWLEDGED that
she understood what he was feeling. In fact, that she had felt
like that herself. This calmed Ricky down enough for her to
express that she cared about what happened to Ricky, and that she
wanted to help.
- When someone is upset, angry, or scared,
they are usually not open for arguments. What they want first
is to know that someone understands what they are feeling, and
then that someone wants to help. Until you acknowledge their
feelings, it is likely that the conversation will go
- Readers, please reread lines 6 through
What if Ruth is not able to help Ricky by herself, what could she do?
Call on people.
- Encourage him to get help from someone:
Teacher. Parent. Learning therapist.
- Go with him as moral support when he asks
- Keep asking how he is doing.
- Continue to show she cares.
- Keep offering to help in any way she can.
Quizzing him to prepare for tests. Study together.
Imagine you are someone like Ricky. School is starting to get you
down. You are falling down in your work and grades. You don't know
what to do about it. You are just about to give up.
- Then along comes one of your good friends, and
actually wants to help you get caught up in your
studies. How would you feel? Call on a few people to get their
- I'd be relieved, more relaxed, more
positive, "Maybe I can get caught up! Happy that my friend
really cares about me!
- Assume you are able to help your friend get
caught up. Afterwards, what will he likely feel or think? How
would you feel or think? ? Call on people.
- Your friendship would be much
- Your friend would feel grateful to
- Your friend's self confidence will be
- You would feel good about yourself, because
you made a real difference in your friend.
- Your own self confidence would be
Review: How did Ruth defuse the situation?
Call on people.
- By immediately acknowledging that she saw
Ricky was stressed out with school. Acknowledges his feelings.
- Teacher Follow-up
None defined at this time.
- Advanced Personhood
Sequence. Links to grade 6 Lesson
- Return to Advanced
Personhood Lesson Sequence
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As of: 15 Aug '03