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In the transformational seminars and workshops of Southern California, new methods have been developed for networking, negotiating, being able to create outcome and seizing control of your life. Principle among these is languaging for power. The idea is that if we can learn to speak to others in a way that reaches others on deep, unconscious levels, we will persuade, enchant, draw and literally be able to do anything we want to do with family, friends, co-workers, the team of people you see daily as well as with powerful executives you happen to meet.

People are opportunities but as you may have noticed, mostly people blow by us like flower petals in the wind. We need to learn to language correctly to catch hold of people and create events.

By 'languaging' correctly, we mean learning to use words to tie in with the people you want and proposing the project in a way that gets listened to, so you get the help you need, and are able to shape the work or events you will do with these people.

Everything was created with words. Ideas are first, but words come next. There's even a rumor that the universe was created with the word of God. It was pronounced into existence. Likewise, all progress you will do will be done with your languaging. The trick in human existence is making events occur because you said they would occur.

For instance, when trying to get a project launched, you go to Mr. VIP seeking an agreement about getting his money, his funding. You want to create your working together. The way to get it is to say "Mr. VIP, I will do ABC for the project if you do D E and F. Together we can achieve XYZ." That's the simple formula, but this verbal formula is powerful and impressive in the right hands, or should we say, on the right lips.

Remember, your WORD will be your fiat. The strength of your languaging depends on whether you HAVE word or not. It doesn't matter what other people know about your word-- although that's part of it. It mainly depends on what YOU think of your own word. Word is your track record, even if it is NOT known by your partners. It is a metaphysical reality. Those who keep agreements and are known for it by themselves and others will be able to suggest new games to talented people, attract and involve other people through their word and create specific outcomes of events. Such people can affect planetary destiny and you want to be one.

The men and women who can create harmonious work teams that get jobs done are group leaders. Usually, groups are required. There is power in numbers. The more souls attached to a project, the more likely it is to endure and win. When one person slows down a little, the others keep up.

Team work was the main secret of a Henry Ford or an Irving Thalberg. Network, talk, plan, promise, attract team, work-share and make dreams (that you depict verbally) turn into reality.

Use the word 'will' a lot. "This WILL happen. I WILL do this." Will is a verb that has to do with future events existing. "This WILL exist." You WILL get people to coordinate their labor, harness their egos to a job, submerge their temperaments and thusly motivate them to finish the job. You will get VIPS to endow you with the money and power you need. You will get VIPS to work with you.

You are in charge of your being a winner over life's processes, or its victim, a loser. Take responsibility for what comes out of your mouth. Shape it better. *(here we must bring up the ways that people screw up with words and listening, Being spacey, unfocused, non sequiteurs, having a sloppy habit, casual, overly friendly or just out of line), etc.

Create new biz relationships now. Promote your projects.

There are two other major bricks in business life: 1) having AFFINITY with co-workers 2) having SHARED REALITY or work. Attain the affinity part by sharing recreation, games, sports or meals, going to the movies, etc. with biz pals.

Any golf dates you can make with agents, producers, bankers, financiers, VIPS? Create the event. Enjoy it. Remember, recreating together is the highest thing two people can do.

Next, ponder: what person do you want to work with but don't have an affinity with. Or what work can you do with someone that you already are hanging out with due to this affinity you two have? Affinity is based on recreating together. Recreation creates loyal friendship, rare in business and quite useful.

Make a list of relationships where there's either friendship and fun or shared work. You see that the missing element gets added. Stage manage a recreational event every week-end and invite that family or team member, potential biz partner or co-worker. Pick new GAMES: Bar-b-ques, tennis games, fishing, boating, playing cards. Share recreation with someone with whom you already share work. And, plot some business you can do with someone you already share fun and games with on weekends.

A succesful Chinese executive once told me that in her culture, NOBODY did business with another person until they'd golfed together, partied together and eaten together a dozen times. They didn't feel safe until that had happened. Until they felt the friendship to be real and sincere. Until they had shared bread as well as fun they couldn't trust each other to join in a money project.

Don't look upon workplay as work. Look upon it as fun you weren't having, as a lifestyle that will round out your character. So have fun and do business. You are in charge of choosing to create the future you want, envisioning goals, languaging for success and keeping your word to yourself about all of it. And doing all that you say you are going to do.

These rules are the secret for a Green Thumb!