WHY A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER GIVE TO A MAN

Men have a lot of muscles but there is no such muscle as GRATITUDE in them. If you give to a man that you are dating, DO FOR a man, LEND money to a man, instead of his reacting as WE WOMEN WOULD with gratitude, a male recipient has a lingering un-ease, a guilt which  he doesn't face --- which makes him SOUR which in turn makes him equate us with trying to BUY his love and he loses respect for himself. HE loses FACE. 

Worse, he suspects that you know his dirty little secret and he will end up hating you.The Ancient Chinese had a prime rule in all negotiating. NEVER make the other party lose FACE. Lacy Peterson found out SCOTT was lying about being in Med School. That’s why he had to kill her. Not fatherhood, not the other girl. He had told her he was about to be a doctor, told her a huge lie for years. She found out; he lost face. So never give to a man! THAT GIFT HE NEEDS and fact he needed it -- makes him lose face!

I know, -- any woman would react to a gift with gratitude. That's how we are and that's how we think. Men do not. We frequently assume they are like us. They are not. So keep the lump in your bed sheets away from the lump in your purse. Honey and money don't mix.

Now, oddly, the other way around is the best way for a man to get a woman. Let your man spend money on flowers, candy, trips, clothing, even cars and rent. You will be touched and love him more. Men give those things to women as the barrage of meaningless costly things ties you to him. BUT he will not give you job connections. He will never send you out into the world to be a success if he wants you. True, if he helped you  get a job, meet a bigwig, his stock would soar sky-high with you, even higher than diamonds, but he won’t do that. Because he isn’t giving to you, he’s giving to himself. He’s tying you to him.

When we women speak of giving to a man, we do that too. Often we give money to bind him. It doesn’t work on them. It works in the reverse way. Giving work, effort, time to a man's career is DISASTER for a woman. He despises you for it, especially if he really needs that help. 

Put him through med school, when he graduates he always marries a night nurse where he's interning. 

HELPING A GUY might work if you're in a community property state, and there are only a half dozen that I know of, (ask me for list) and that payback only works if you are ALREADY MARRIED.

The one good thing about not marrying the man who takes money and gives promises, (if he breaks them,) is that you couldn't testify against him if you were his wife, but you CAN testify if you're his girlfriend.

Many wives have sent their hubbies through med school working fortyhours a week for ten years and they can litigate when he leaves and theyalways do litigate as he always does leave. My take on married men who got really rich after his wife put him through school is, -- any man who can afford a red Ferrari will use it. 

The Betty Broderick story is a t.v. "movie of the week" that you should rent, called "A Woman Scorned" with Meredith Baxter Birney and that handsome rogue, Stephen Collins. Might be on Lifetime Channel. It is chilling in its accuracy of how much you will be ripped up when you've given everything to a man and had him turn on you and leave.Before the Doctor started cheating on Betty B. she had put him through college!   

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