Romantic Sociopath? MYTH?
RICH AND DESIREABLE?
or a LIFE OF TROUBLE for any woman!?
Did ya ever think that the Hefnerian male, romantic philosophy of the "MAN AS A privileged LONE WOLF" who can play with many hearts....is one that we haven’t seen much in books (even in classical times). No wonder. It’s the zeitgeist of a literal, ultra secret Skull and bones Society. It doesn't behoove the club member to talk about it, because it warns victims. And it is not a very Politically correct philosophy. Do you truly think men are going to talk about it? Expose it to criticism? No way. So that is why I am going to bust them on their rogue male indulgences right here.
Maybe in ancient times, when starvation threatened women and children, a GHENGHIS KHAN could have a dozen wives. Maybe in a desert, that works; that is the reason why OSAMA Bin Laden's father had nearly thirty wives -- but in the West, the concept of a bachelor male is not ecologically necessary for a woman's survival, a good example to boy children, or politically correct. Look what Joe Kennedy did to JFK, programming him to cheat on Jackie and drive her to despair that caused her to spontaneously miscarry.
Men live this secret life but they don't write about it. They aren't proud of it. Even in classical times, for a novel to come out on this subject would have been a scandal. After all, novels were principally purchased by women. They were all 'romances' and an Alfie hero would NOT have been comforting to girls' fluttering hearts. It would have sent them into the terrain of ugly reality. And what girl in love wants that?
No writer I know of, except the author of the original Don Juan Tenorio or the famed writer CASANOVA ever went near the 'bachelor as plunderer' theme! Oh, one Porno writer, Frank Harris, but that's about it. No major novel had a hero or an anti-hero where the guy was an out and out 'chick-collector'....except the movie script "ALFIE" (A curious semblance to the word 'alpha male, no?' ALPHIE?
The reason is that readers would despise that character. So it's hard for us women to study the syndrome without the help of aging males of this persuasion who want to make confessions to us over martinis after work. Though actually, I had one such shameless louse as a close friend for three decades, and I want to share HIS confessions with you.
These men cannot stop themselves. It is a salivation response. Even homely, plain women strike him as having secret fountains of sexuality. My friend would go after anything, anyone. I was lucky to find even one to spy on. Even though I'm an astrologer, I have never had a male horoscope client confess to sequential polygamies. So until meeting this screenwriter, I had no information on the syndrome. My clients are mostly women and gay guys, the reason being that true alpha males never need to consult anybody about their life. They are self-starters.
Now, I have heard from many women who come to see me that these men exist. These weeping girls are all coming to me because their souls, heads and bodies were seriously dented from the impressions one of these plundering men left on their lives.
After you read this, maybe you should "google search" on these keywords, MALE PLAYERS, DOMINANT MEN, ALPHA MALE TENDENCIES. HAREM KEEPERS of the western world. "Romantic Sociopaths."
True, the Book of Mormon seems to have touched upon the subject, and Mormons lived the philosophy, but they did so without writing treatises enjoining the common man to live that way. The reason? They found that any mention of it brought mayhem. At one time, the good citizens of St. Joseph Missouri burned out every Mormon in town, (hundreds of families,) killing many of them! Which is why Mormons moved out to Utah.
Does anyone know of any movies, novels or psychological studies on the rapacious male? Except ALFIE? A film to rent, starring Michael Caine.
The philosophy of the man being like a bee, having many flowers, and leaping from one to the next at will, abandoning ladies right and left, is one that would have been created by an ‘alpha’ male. So why did no ambitious author ever leave those tracks in the snow? My feeling is that the men who knew about it were men who did it. They were either so consumed with guilt that they couldn't explore their own addictions, or so busy with women that they had no time or energy left to do it. You see, any man who wants to become a 'collector' can. And that is an addiction beyond any as women are the most delightful thing on the planet. Their kindness, beauty, sensitivity makes them like flowers. In comparison, men are mere beasts, like bees.
My early experience with alpha males was being a highschool lunchyard eavesdropper. As I sat alone at lunch, I was able to overhear the conversation of groups of guys who talked up this kind of woman-killer theme. Those fellows were the wanna be jocks who preened, bragged and created a false norm of potency where this pasha figure (they) is supposed to have many harem girls. Implied was, "Only you other guys aren't ME so you can't!"
While in the locker room THE 'hot guy' would RIDICULE his brothers who actually fall in love and cherish or venerate women. The 'hot boys' did keep this wolf philosophy going. Did and do. That’s why --- when men get married, they are the butt of jokes from their bro's while women who catch a man are considered lucky. And society fatuously, politely and INVERSELY congratulates only the MAN on catching the woman. Do you know that at weddings, it isn't considered polite to congratulate the BRIDE? Go figure? It's the inverse of reality. WOMEN are screaming inwardly in joy for catching a man yet for politeness sake, we avert our heads and pretend otherwise? And here's another screwy factoid proving the inverse of what we believe to be true is true: Genuine Statisticians actually did a poll of who was happy by marriage status. Happiest of all was the married male, second happiest the single female, third happiest the unmarried male and saddest of all, the married female. So that shows you how far off the mark the popular conception can be!
Third proof: The Locker room male philosophy has it that a man who ‘falls for a lady is really a ‘beta’ male, dumb, weak and destined to be miserable when that's really not the case. These ALPHA men claim never be ‘subjugated’ by a woman. That may be the case but the Alpha men I knew ended up addicted to their substance and marrying the praying mantis type destroyer females who were utterly beautiful, frequently Lesbian and very exploitative. I saw this first hand.
The Alpha man classically does not want children, will not let the woman they date make suggestions about anything. They call this ‘pussy whipping’. They won’t be turned into householder male ‘slaves’ who fix leaky pipes which is what they allege women are trying to do to them. Ironically, their own leaky pipes become a source of loss of wellness to the family household. By that I mean, their rampaging ways cause cash loss to the estate. I do not refer to urinary incontinence. But another kind of leaky pipe, prostate problems due to non specific bacteria reaming out their prostate happens in l00% of the cases of male promiscuity.
But back to the subject we're examining. What the heck makes a guy turn into a serial romancer?? I feel they must have had a pushy mother or a miserable toilet training experience because they've gone on to dream up a world where they are famous, desireable, powerful and rich, control the woman toilet demon and never have to be subjegated by or devoted to one woman. They don’t have to ‘take anything’ from a woman as they can always get "it" elsewhere.
If you want to see a rogue male in action, watch Bill Maher the host of POLITICALLY INCORRECT (who hangs with Hugh Hefner a great deal in private life.) Maher is the most visible proponent of this WOLF liturgy since Hefner got senile and had to have nine women hold him up, and since Hef stopped yapping on his own mag’s philosophy page as his brain long since had dried up. Bill's the new guy but so quickly did he shoot by in his fifteen minutes that you can no longer catch him on ABC he's on HBO now, the boneyard for aging stand-up comedians.
Throughout history we can find the Hefner philosophy in the lives of tycoons and royalty peeping through in biographies. That zeitgeist is UNCONSCIOUSLY absorbed by ordinary men and acted out by them. There’s always a Hefner at every high school, usually a football star .. living this lifestyle which I consider an analogue of the serial killer. Instead of bullets, they’re shooting something else but with contempt directed at women. Which means that all these little sonsofguns were somehow created by their mothers to be what they are. What kind of mother creates a serial romancer? Insane, a victim, a sadist, a control freak, whatever it was, in the 31 flavors of aberration, that mother left her son with an inability to ever confront that syndrome or go near it. So he picks plain vanilla babes that have no trace of whatever it was that scared him. As women do tend to get intense if they're loved only partially, he must run when the woman starts to exhibit any kind of wound or rage. So he's a pick-em-sweet, leave when they start to mold kind of guy.
Patricia Cornwell has just written the bio of the real Jack the Ripper, "RIPPER, CASE CLOSED". (The famous ripper was a Victorian painter, Walter Sickert.) She tells that little Wally had many surgeries to his genitals in his fifth year of life, probably to cut nerves associated with priapism. The experience of nurses hovering over him combined with painful wounds to his privates drove him nuts. So infant experiences with female power figures clearly engender murderous feelings toward women. Rage is a basic common denominator of plundering 'lovers' of multiple women.
As I said, I knew one such guy, in HOLLYWOOD, heard his entire life story from him over the course of thirty years, as he downed martini after martini. Oddly, he'd also had repeated surgeries to his priapistic nerve in childhood. His continued access to young beautiful women, granted by his JOB/STATUS and Oscars, turned him into what HE BELIEVED to be was a connoiseur of women. He never used the word collector. I’d say he was simply a pussy addict. He dated wannabes by the thousand, found at screenwriting schools, (his wives wondered why he still wanted to teach!) and he married 5 wives over the course of 70 years, each one more beautiful and young than the girl before, all materialistic, adept, clever man haters, including one outright LESBIAN who had girl sweethearts that she gave his money to. The two girls took him to the cleaners. But he didn’t get it as with doing all that stuff daily comes an eventual senility. He'd take a drive stone cold sober and cops would have to bring him home. He'd gotten lost. At age 86 impotency and cancer overtook him. And he died, another whiff of air.
But my question is, --are there any classic philosophy writers beside Hef, who wrote the playboy philosophy into their work? Who were anti-female? Someone told me Wilhelm Friederich was to be studied on this matter. Know of any researchers out there? This is no final fact finding. It's just a little scribble to provoke your thinking on this matter, your observing. Your asking the right questions because if you are beautiful and young and smart, you should avoid playboys. They know how to get you to love them so much that they can drink the whole cup of honey before you turn bitter. And they know how to run without looking back.
As an astrologer, I also advise beautiful young women to avoid cute guys. Yes, those disco hunks that have Chippendale bodies. I remind them that there are decent, kind men out there who can be good fathers to their children.
Now, when I find a woman who does not want children, I always tell her to marry a billionaire and do good works with the money. Make the world's children HER children. Marry one of the great fortunes of America. And a beautiful girl can do it. SECRET OF HOW is in an article on this which can be found right this second if you CLICK on HOW TO MARRY WELL, THIS URL)
But the problem is, so many of the super rich males have secretly become alpha males. And these are sheer poison. The only way to tolerate one is to remember that Divorce is not the wife's best friend, being widowed is. Treat him as a friend with the ALFIE SYNDROME. You wouldn't get all bummed if a male pal had this going. You'd be fine. It wouldn't matter. Be polite, don't scream, don't even talk about it. If he had a wee wee problem and had to go to the toilet ten times an hour would you scream? Mention it? No! You married the guy and marriage is a woman's best friend. Stick with it. BUT, you cannot sleep with him. Ever. You have to be double tender, double friendly, double sincere and explain that you don't want AIDS or Syphillis. Or the many HIDDEN MICROBES called NON -SPECIFIC VAGINITIS that eat out a cervix and/or prostate gland. Reason men have such high incidence of prostate cancer is the NSV's. Wish him well in his bachelor ways, 'just don't include me in them!' See, you really are going to sleep with everyone he ever slept with if you continue to date your own husband.
The PASHA syndrome is quite normal for Alpha males and a wife must simply do what women did in the Renaissance when they were abandoned, enter a convent of sorts. Get busy in HADASSAH, that's the Jewish concept where wives, mothers, grandma's all the old gals, see to the welfare of the poor.
Now, if he's abusive to you, then think divorce. But if he's not outwardly mean, abusive, stick wtih him. You never get the Social Security Pension of a mate if you haven't been married a ful l0 yrs. One day less, and they won't give it to you. Chalk up ten yrs, doesn't matter if he gets a hundred other wives, you get your pension for life. When he croaks. Again, when a BAD MAN DIES, GOOD WOMEN CELEBRATE.
Read Roxanne Pullitzer's book on her marriage to the famed publishing heir. THE URL is an article on her. Do a Google search on that name.
Last, read Howard Bloom, a scientist, writing on aberrant male traits in "GLOBAL BRAIN," a book on human, genetic traits. He has a website, http://www.howardbloom.net
(*As a side benefit, his writing will increase your IQ and give you
the smartest table conversation on the block.)
It's no good going willy nilly into the world of the super rich male
without a little research under your belt, because you want to learn to
read the signs of character so you don't get too far up the wrong river
in a flimsy canoe!
For a college degree in the ART and SCIENCE OF LOVE and MARRIAGE, read SUCCESS IN LOVE and start a living room all gals study group in your living room first, when it gets too big, move it to local Church basement with pastor's blessing, even charge and make a million bucks doing it.
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