The Abused Men's Area

The Abused Men's Area
This page was last updated on Wednesday, June 27, 2007.

This site will change as I remove obsolete information, add new information, or correct errors. I do try to proofread my material for errors and I encourage corrections and suggestions from those who visit this web site.

I first became aware that someone has been using my e-mail address for their own illicit purposes on June 10, 2004. Unlike the person who is using my address, I never use file attachments or fragmented words.

From time to time, I receive hate mail from disgruntled radical feminists and their supporters. This recent event could very well be someone’s expression of their discontent. Yet again, it could be the work of an imposter or a common thief.

I try to reply to readers of the Abused Men’s Area by adding my answer to their own e-mail message to me. I do this as a matter of authentication. Occasionally, I do write to newspapers regarding information of public importance. However, your mail to me remains a private matter.

About nine months ago (September 2006) a woman wrote to me about a condition that she could not understand. I thought about what she wrote and immediately understood that this was a severe form of Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) called Postmenstrual Disphoric Disorder (PMDD). My delay was that I answered countless letters. Somewhere, someone was using my e-mail address to falsely represent their self as me. Identification theft is now common and rampant. I consider PMDD not to be a choice but an affliction that can be assuaged and sometimes cured.

I coined the term, Social Alienation Syndrome, because I wanted to describe social alienation outside the context of relationship and gender. Social Alienation Syndrome is not an illness. It is the set of behaviors designed to estrange the relationship between society and a person or a group of people. These behaviors can those of the radical feminists, their supporters, or their believers.

My paper, Adultery, defines the term in modern context. I did so because California law, as presented on its official web site, does not define properly define adultery. It defines adultery as incest.

California law speaks of incest but not to the degree of consanguinity. Nevada and Arizona also refer to ‘Consanguinity’. It a term that is used to define the familial degrees of relationship. This is important in matters of incest where the sole purpose was to prevent genetic inbreeding.

In its current state, California law does not protect an innocent spouse from his or her adulterous spouse. When an adulterous spouse falsely accuses an innocent spouse of adultery, it more than likely that the accuser is projecting his or her own guilt of adultery.

At the request of a correspondent, I wrote The Worsening Cycle of Abuse. This is a short paper that advocates the termination of a relationship at the first sign of abuse.

Dishonest Domestic Violence Guidelines is an amalgam of Massachusetts guidelines and California law addressing the notion of probable cause. Child sexual abuse addresses this important topic. Anyone who works with children or who has been falsely accused of child molestation should read this paper.

I consider the notion of immunity is among the greatest threats to our society because it places privilege above fidelity. I decided to rewrite my essay on immunity a few weeks ago and I found two useful Supreme Court decisions. Social workers have maintained that they have quasi prosecutorial immunity and prosecutors have maintained that they have absolute immunity from lawsuit. The first case does not seem to offer much hope until one reads the dissenting decision. In the second case, the Supreme Court rejected to notion of absolute prosecutorial immunity for prosecutors who lie under oath. Please click here to see my paper on immunity and references to these two Supreme Court decisions.

The hot item for the last three years is paternity law reform. Some jurisdictions reject it. Though this paper does give some good advice, it is not complete.

Some do not like the truth but I say it. This is what I do without any oath, pledge or requirement. Our courts and its officers have a long history of withholding evidence, lying, and falsifying records and hearing tapes. These individuals and other professionals have established a bizarre court system that is a result of their personal immunity and their power to encourage perjury.

Through their desire to oppress males, radical feminists have caused an increase in the numbers of falsely accused men. The activities of these groups include creating false statistics. They lie about rape, child abuse, domestic violence, and create sadistic pornography. The centerpiece of their argument is their fictitious concept of male privilege that allows men to abuse women. They ignore the fact that some women do lie and some women promote violence against men. Radical feminists oppose shelters for men. This short essay reveals some new statistics on domestic violence and the reasons for having shelters for men and their children. Please click here to see that paper.

Previously, I reviewed two national estimates and one British estimate on domestic violence. Then I reviewed a national study on child abuse using data that came from Child Protective Service agencies around the country. I came to the conclusion that women are more likely than men to abuse family members (Statistics on Family Violence and Abuse.) The real number was not 4 millions and it was not nearly 900,000. The actual number of reported cases was 876,340 and no one can say how many of those cases were false reports or cases of women battering and molesting women (Please read "The Right to Privacy" by Ms. Ellen Alderman and Ms. Caroline Kennedy).

Since I published my experiences about my ex-wife's addiction to violence, many have come forward and said that my essay (Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships) described a daughter-in-law or someone they knew. The words they most often used were 'eerie' and 'chilling'. I have recently added a paper that offers advice to abused men.

One person asked me, how do you know when you are being abused. The answer is that when one feels uncomfortable in a relationship that is the time to end it. I wrote (The Behavioral Traits of an Abusive Person and the Signs of Abuse) to provide additional material that should help abused men survive abusive and violent relationships. I then wrote a paper on personality and mood disorders as they may relate to false allegations of domestic violence and abuse. My experience suggests that Borderline Personality Disorder may play a major role in these incidents.

The courts and court personnel are openly hostile to men. Too many embrace the notion that men must be villains and women must be victims. Too many times I have heard and read the mindless phrase "blaming the victim." The bigger the lie a woman tells, the more likely that the courts will award all the property and custody of the children to her.

Most people do not know what to expect from the legal system so I wrote a paper about it. My essay, "In The Courtroom", addresses a number of topics. The two most important topics are how to deal with court papers and your personal testimony. This paper can protect your rights. Furthermore, I encourage readers to examine the reports of the San Diego Grand Jury and the testimony of Alan M. Dershowitz before Congress.

Judges, attorneys, and other professionals have established a bizarre court system that is a result of their personal immunity and their power to encourage perjury. The California legislature has encouraged perjury by empowering the courts to punish suspected victims of family violence.

Public officials should not have to report every gift they receive otherwise, they would be involved with reporting rather than performing their official duties. A table of consanguinity, can be used to define the circumstances where a public official does not have to report gifts from certain relatives.

***Pamphlets and Handouts***
Domestic Violence Pamphlet 1 for Men (Side 1). Domestic Violence Pamphlet 2 for Men (Side 1). Domestic Abuse Front Sheet for diaries and reporting purposes (Side 1). Pamphlet on Personality Disorders (Side 1). Traits Table - This a copy of the table on the traits of an abusive person from my essay on the signs of abuse. Reader may want to use this table and a marking pen to highlight traits of the abuser in their life. Table of Consanguinity - One can use this table to determine their relationship to family relatives. It can be also used to determine that a relationship is incestuous under law.	Domestic Violence Pamphlet 1 for Men (Side 2). Domestic Violence Pamphlet 2 for Men (Side 2). Domestic Abuse Back Sheet for diaries and reporting purposes (Side 2). Pamphlet on Personality Disorders (Side 2). Victims of Abuse Table - This a copy of the table on the effects of abuse from my essay on the signs of abuse. Reader may want to use this table and a marking pen to highlight their symptoms.

***Essays***
Abusive and Violent Women in Relationships - Recognizing the signs. Adultery Advice for Abused Men An Approach to Prosecutorial and Judicial Wrongdoing Autism - The Facts Dishonest Domestic Violence Guidelines Behind Our Backs - Judges change hearing tapes and court orders in a non judicial setting. False Allegations of Domestic Violence and Parental Alienation Syndrome. Medical Problems - Some other results of abuse. Signs of Abuse. Gaslight - A Portrayal of Abuse. Statistics on Family Violence and Abuse. A definition of misandry - The Oppression and Hatred of Males - with parts of speech. Misandry in Congress - Women Do Lie.	Courts Can Punish Suspected Victims. Immunity Child Sexual Abuse. Radical Feminists and Their War Against Society. Personality and Mental Disorders. Paternity Law Reform. Premenstrual Disphoric Disorder. New The Case for DNA Maternity and Paternity Testing. Protect Your Rights in the Courtroom A Public Display of Violence by a Women's Shelter. Female Shelter Workers Oppose Shelters For Men The Worsening Cycle of Abuse Social Alienation Syndrome

***Personal Accounts***
Abuse in hospitals - An account of three separate incidents. The Impossible Scene - A judge ignores the truth. Female Librarians Ban The Abused Men's Area pamphlets from Vallejo Public Libraries Xiana Fairchild - a missing girl's abuse by her mother. False Accusations of Rape. Required reading for California parents of minor children.	Junk Justice - The police, DA, and the courts join in the abuse of a husband by lying and tampering with court records and a video transcript. Grounds for Disqualification - Judges and lawyers make a farce of family law. She gloats in her own words - Friday, October 11, 1996 - This is a WAV audio file. Please replay after downloading.

"Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence", Phillip W. Cook
"Actual Innocence", Barry Scheck, Peter Neufeld, and Jim Dwyer
"Bipolar Disorder", Francis Mark Mondimore
"Elusive Innocence: Survival Guide for the Falsely Accused", Dean Tong
"Gaslight", Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer (1944)
"Girl, Interrupted", Columbia Pictures [This film is not suitable for children under 18.]
"Mayo Clinic on Depression", Keith Kramlinger
"Narcissistic Personality Disorder", Joanna M. Ashmum
"O.J. The Last Word", Gerry Spence
"Prone to Violence", Erin Pizzey
"Stop Walking on Eggshells", Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger
"The Abuse Excuse", Alan M. Dershowitz
"The Language Police", Diane Ravitch
"The Right to Privacy", Ellen Alderman and Caroline Kennedy
"The Seven Sins of Memory", Daniel L. Schacter
"The War Against Boys: How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men", Christina Hoff Sommers
"The Wicked World of Women", Erin Pizzey
"What is a Personality Disorder?", Joanna M. Ashmum
"Who Stole Feminism?: How Women Have Betrayed Women", Christina Hoff Sommers
"Working With Violent Women", Erin Pizzey

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